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Originally Posted by Jenna1511 View Post

 

Hi Ladies it been awhile since I've posted here but I've been reading how your all making great progress!

I finished my invitations a bit ago and want to share them with my fellow May brides!

Here's the link:

http://www.bestdestinationwedding.com/t/81883/my-diy-passport-invites-with-rsvp-boarding-pass-lost-of-pics/10#post_1817073

Those are really nice!  

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Originally Posted by Tulumbride2013 View Post

 

Yea def pick her brain, but don't let her limit you ya know? What is your current theme or colors or inspiration? I'd love to see a pic! cheesy.gif

I don't have a theme really, just basically trying to capture the Caribbean. Our colors are persian plum, tangerine, coral.  I have some of my color scheme posted on another thread asking about colors.http://www.bestdestinationwedding.com/t/81943/what-do-you-think-of-these-colours/10#post_1819679

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Ladies!  I have to vent!  

 

Last night my fiance told me that he finally talked to his best man about our wedding and his BM asked him to ask me for some concessions (in other words, if we could pay for the groomsmen's trips).  I was so upset for multiple reasons, but the main ones are as follows:

 

1)  These are wealthy guys complaining about money to come to our wedding!   One is a lawyer, the other has a job and has family money, and the other has a job and lives in a condo owned by his family (plus his wedding over the summer cost over $50,000).

 

2)  My FI spent over $1500 on his BM's wedding and wedding extras (e.g., bachelor party, suit, gift, etc.) and his BM would only have to spend $1100 for a vacation in Jamaica that includes three nights at an all inclusive and airfare (granted that does not include his wife's airfare but if they are so needy for money than why would they both go).  His BM's wedding was in Long Island, NY.  

 

3) There are ppl that are planning to come to our wedding that have not been complaining but have a right to complain about the money because they legitimately can't afford to come.  I would rather pay for those people!  

 

4)  My bridesmaids have not said one thing about wanting money from us and they are ones that are not by any means financially wealthy.  They are just so excited for us and for their vacation in Jamaica.

 

I just feel terrible for my FI.  His guys are not going to do anything for him (no bachelor party or any other party - my girls threw us an engagement party and are offering to do a bachelorette and shower) and instead they are asking us to pay for their trips!  

 

Grrrr... Has anyone else had any similar situation??   I did not want a bridal party for this reason!  I didn't want drama and I didn't want anyone to use the "bridal party excuse" as a means to ask us for money.  I told my girls that if they have any hesitations whatsover about money, they don't need to come and I will not have any hard feelings towards them because I understand that it can get expensive.

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Court Wow. I'm really sorry this happened to you! I can't believe they just asked like that! That's rude. I remember reading that some people do help out with the trips, but you can't make them your priority. That probably really but your FI on the spot. My moh dropped out six months after being informed of our wedding, so I have been there with the money and attendants. She never asked for money but she definetly hinted, and I just said I'm sorry you can't come, no hard feelings. This is already costing you a ton and that's absurd to ask for handouts! Hope you get this sorted out:(

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Originally Posted by CourtandMatt View Post

 

Ladies!  I have to vent!  

 

Last night my fiance told me that he finally talked to his best man about our wedding and his BM asked him to ask me for some concessions (in other words, if we could pay for the groomsmen's trips).  I was so upset for multiple reasons, but the main ones are as follows:

 

1)  These are wealthy guys complaining about money to come to our wedding!   One is a lawyer, the other has a job and has family money, and the other has a job and lives in a condo owned by his family (plus his wedding over the summer cost over $50,000).

 

2)  My FI spent over $1500 on his BM's wedding and wedding extras (e.g., bachelor party, suit, gift, etc.) and his BM would only have to spend $1100 for a vacation in Jamaica that includes three nights at an all inclusive and airfare (granted that does not include his wife's airfare but if they are so needy for money than why would they both go).  His BM's wedding was in Long Island, NY.  

 

3) There are ppl that are planning to come to our wedding that have not been complaining but have a right to complain about the money because they legitimately can't afford to come.  I would rather pay for those people!  

 

4)  My bridesmaids have not said one thing about wanting money from us and they are ones that are not by any means financially wealthy.  They are just so excited for us and for their vacation in Jamaica.

 

I just feel terrible for my FI.  His guys are not going to do anything for him (no bachelor party or any other party - my girls threw us an engagement party and are offering to do a bachelorette and shower) and instead they are asking us to pay for their trips!  

 

Grrrr... Has anyone else had any similar situation??   I did not want a bridal party for this reason!  I didn't want drama and I didn't want anyone to use the "bridal party excuse" as a means to ask us for money.  I told my girls that if they have any hesitations whatsover about money, they don't need to come and I will not have any hard feelings towards them because I understand that it can get expensive.

 WOW.. I truly feel your frustration.. I am also total appaled by someone who makes good money to ask for someone else to pay for his trip. Your FI paid more towards his BM's wedding than yall are asking him to pay. I see it as that person is not a true friend to him. I honestly feel so terrible for your FI. What did he tell him?

 

I personally feel that if someone cannot afford the trip, then I totally understand. Just let me know up front and I will ask someone else to step in. My FI knew of one guy that he wanted as his BM and before my FI asked him he was all about going no matter what. But his wife jerked his chain and is refusing to go due to not leaving their child at home or traveling with her.. Yet they are going to our Destination wedding spot this month.. All done after the whole ordeal. So I feel soo bad for my FI. He doesn't even want to ask anyone to be on his side until they have booked their trip. I see where he is coming from as I have asked 5 girls and I'm not sure who will really go. They are seem excited but this week one or two are using money excuse. I kinda told them that I understand if anyone has money issues, but I would like to know now (should have known months ago) so that I can make other arrangements if needed. I'm sorry but I will not accept the excuse of "I have no money" a couple of months before the wedding when I asked these friends to be by my side well over a year in advance.

 

My FI and I set up a savings account and put away $100 each a week. We have it withdrawn automatically and we never miss the money. With that, we have went in halvies on everything and purchased our photog with a deposit $500, travel arrangements $3011, my dress $1000, and still have a ton saved. <--- the best idea my fiance has ever come up with!! :o) Other than marrying me of course.. lol.  But honestly great idea if any of you ladies feel the frustration of saving. I have also told my friends about our saving advice and a few are starting to do the same. :o)

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Originally Posted by CourtandMatt View Post

 

Ladies!  I have to vent!  

 

Last night my fiance told me that he finally talked to his best man about our wedding and his BM asked him to ask me for some concessions (in other words, if we could pay for the groomsmen's trips).  I was so upset for multiple reasons, but the main ones are as follows:

 

1)  These are wealthy guys complaining about money to come to our wedding!   One is a lawyer, the other has a job and has family money, and the other has a job and lives in a condo owned by his family (plus his wedding over the summer cost over $50,000).

 

2)  My FI spent over $1500 on his BM's wedding and wedding extras (e.g., bachelor party, suit, gift, etc.) and his BM would only have to spend $1100 for a vacation in Jamaica that includes three nights at an all inclusive and airfare (granted that does not include his wife's airfare but if they are so needy for money than why would they both go).  His BM's wedding was in Long Island, NY.  

 

3) There are ppl that are planning to come to our wedding that have not been complaining but have a right to complain about the money because they legitimately can't afford to come.  I would rather pay for those people!  

 

4)  My bridesmaids have not said one thing about wanting money from us and they are ones that are not by any means financially wealthy.  They are just so excited for us and for their vacation in Jamaica.

 

I just feel terrible for my FI.  His guys are not going to do anything for him (no bachelor party or any other party - my girls threw us an engagement party and are offering to do a bachelorette and shower) and instead they are asking us to pay for their trips!  

 

Grrrr... Has anyone else had any similar situation??   I did not want a bridal party for this reason!  I didn't want drama and I didn't want anyone to use the "bridal party excuse" as a means to ask us for money.  I told my girls that if they have any hesitations whatsover about money, they don't need to come and I will not have any hard feelings towards them because I understand that it can get expensive.

Sorry your FI is going through this.  All I have to say about that is, I think your FI needs to re-assess some of these relationships, especially the Best Man.  That's not right for him to ask for concessions and he should be ashamed of himself for even asking, especially when he makes a good living. Honestly,  I am so glad we chose not to have a bridal party. I just have my MOH and he has one BM and they are married to each other and we have a flower girl.  I went to the wedding of my FBIL and he had issues with his groomsmen because they all flaked because they didn't like his bride. My FI was of course there for him, but he needed three other guys. None of his "best friends from back in the day" even showed up to the wedding. The guys who were in the wedding were guys he met in the military and they didn't know his bride.  Do you think these guys are giving him a hard time because they have a problem with you?

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