Im not having a destination wedding to save money - its in cancun since im already in mexico, city i live in is dangerous (just would prefer for my family not to be here) and i like beaches. i did end up choosing the most expensive venue on my list - xcaret - but my parents, bless their hearts are paying for it. an incredible gesture that i didnt expect (i was completely surprised to find out apparently they made a wedding account when i was little) and they pointed out, if i got married in london it would be the same or more money
but ive had a few catty comments (not from my family) about spending so much money/having so many people. this kind of thing "oh well my wedding, had a 40 people and it only cost me 50 cents and a ball of twine. i would never spend so much money on a party, but if you and your fiance feel you *need* to have such a big do then i guess its your choice" , another choice one-"gosh. brides nowadays do spent a lot of money on just one day dont they. i think theyre more interested in the party than the marriage!". oh sneaky - you think i dont know that was aimed at me even though you use the general term "brides today". i also dont want to hear any sentence that involves the words "pointless" "waste" and other similar words. bite me.
i dont run around telling people that i think expensive weddings are better (i dont think that at all, i just loved xcaret with a passion! but i would have married my fiance in a supermarket had he so wished) so why are people bent on trying to convince me that having a more expensive wedding means we must be more pre-occupied with material things than love... like a cheaper wedding would mean we were mroe in love if that makes sense?
its not like they even know how much im spending as well, obviously i dont mention any details related to prices...as thats just tacky. (except on this forum on the thread comparing budgets. but thats different) mexican guests know its a lot as soon as they hear where it is, english guests...unless theyre incredibly weird and researching it are just guessing i think. i dont answer direct questions about costs, i just try and steer the conversation to "we dont have final figures yet" with a smile rather than "listen little tacky money obsessed people, im not going to detail my budget for you so you can criticise it"
so im warning the world. next person who directly tells me im being ridiculous for planning the wedding my way - i will stomp on your head! well, a bit more realistically i will give you a mean look and walk away
in fact from today, any wedding questions (innocent or not) will be met with "its a secret!"