I totally feel you! My sister, who is my matron of honor (and ONLY attendant) announced she was pregnant right after we picked our date. She's due 7 weeks before the wedding and we've had several meltdowns over it. She had major anxiety about should she come...should she bring the baby...will her husband let her come...is she going to be able to leave the baby...can she pump while she's there....is she going to healthy enough to travel...is she going to have stiches...what if the baby wont latch when she comes home....every single excuse in the book. I was so upset. She couldn't understand why I wouldn't change my date. It finally took my FI bringing me down to earth and calming me down. I was eventually able to look at her point blank and say, this is my date. I have a stepson to consider, and this is when he can come. I need a commitment from you. Either yes, you're coming (barring any emergency with the baby), or you're not. I need to know b/c if you aren't coming, I need to make other arrangements. She finally conceded and is going. Although we're getting married in less than 3 months and she hasn't booked her room. A few people have come to me and said...look I want to be there, I just can't. Two of my cousins are also pregnant and can't travel that month. One aunt just finished skin cancer treatment on her head and can't go near a beach/pool/lake. One friend's husband was laid off. And then there are the a-holes who just don't talk about it b/c they don't want you to call them out on the fact that they won't come to Cancun, but just got back from Europe and NY and are carrying around a new LV handbag.
Funny thing is...just in the last three weeks, I've had a few random people tell me they've booked...or are really trying to get the funds together to go...and these are people who aren't exactly my BFF's...just good friends who I kind of felt obligated to send an invite to. It's going to be a small group and we're finally fine with that. It really lowers my overall costs at the resort b/c we don't have to pay for a full reception which is fine. We're having a big blow out party back home when we get back. I think as we get closer...we just have to say, it is what it is. It's our day...and we just have to focus on what's important and not get caught up in who is or is not there.
Originally Posted by Antigua14
I am not getting married in Mexico however, love this vent session. Same here " Oh beach, all inclusive, yeah we're there" and now it's not many. I was doing a destination wedding b/c I couldn't afford nor did I really want a big wedding here. My own FATHER is not coming! He says he's to old for travel. Yes, he is up there in age but really? He knows nothing about my wedding. We don't even talk about it. I'm too hurt to talk to him about it. I agree with what you're saying. If you can't come then fine, just let me know. I have had 2 bridesmaids back out. One in January and the other still dodging my phone calls to avoid the topic. Her sister contacted me at work to tell me she didn't think her sister was going to be able to come. And this is the same bridesmaid who gave me a hard time about their dresses! As you can tell still a little pissed off about this. Some days come and I ask myself can anything go right?