Your post is not offside. It brings the point that Weddings can bring out the best and worst in people. I have had one rude encounter as well with a "friend" that said how selfish it was of me to expect people to go. I told her, I do not expect anyone to go if they cannot go. And then, I proceeded to tell her that she is not wanted there if she thinks that "the bride and groom cannot be happy and enjoy what THEY want on THEIR wedding day".
Thats crap, weddings are about the bride and groom that have said their vows and are married. All of my close family and friends have known about this for over a year and they are all going.
It is really crappy of her to change her mind on goingand then not even bring it up. It hurts, I know. ((hugs)) I hope you can work this out with her, especially it being your FI sister...and with such an advanced notice.
Originally Posted by yunric
This thread brought tears to my eyes this morning.
Imagine this- My FSIL started off on board. We chose a location SPECIFICALLY that would be child friendly to accommodate her brood, (and others). After picking location etc... she all of a sudden was afraid to fly. No way that her 3 children and husband would go on one plane. (she almost went to Italy with those 3 children last year, mind you)
She back and forthed bw fear and expense. Last week we were shopping, and we have not spoken wedding in months! Out of the blue, she brings up Mexico and plainly says- " Five thousand for all of us for one week is too expensive, we can go to Italy for a month for that."
What makes people think that bc it is a destination wedding they can be so hurtful? Her BROTHER is getting married. AND! He bends over backwards for her. I gave people 13 months to plan and save. Our TA gave people payment plans if they so wish.
I wish she would avoid me. I'm sorry- I know my post is a little off side. Thanks you all for listening.