well at least its an exercise in communication! we've been pretty much on the same page for everything else so i guess we were bound to disagree on something. so far, we've got to him saying "fine, do what you want" but in a way that shows hes in complete disagreement and not happy about it. which makes me want to say he can use his friend
a compromise could work.. maybe if he shoots the civil wedding but not the catholic ceremony/reception. i shall put on my thinking cap!