congratulations on your engagement =)
in terms of country i would look for the simplest place to fly to - so compare costs and whether its direct, or needs 1/2/3 transfers or whatever! it is definitely possible to have a nice wedding for less than 10k, a lot of hotels will offer free wedding packages if all of your guests stay there...or the costs are pretty low especially if you want under 20 people.
then, look at legal requirements. for example for a legal wedding in mexico, you need to take a blood test 4 days before wedding. whereas most other countries dotn require that.
finally choose the venue. all inclusive or not. family or adults only. lots of activities or somewhere quite tranquil. do you want access to the town, or you want to stay in the hotel the whole time. stuff like that =) in terms of minimum number of bookings, most places (i think) thats not an issue but you often have to guarentee your guests, or at least 80% will stay at the hotel. otherwise you end up paying more, and they need to think about buying a day guest pass which can 100 dollars or so. one issue you have to keep in mind when youve chosen a venue and want a location within the venue...a lot of the beaches are public. so you will have sunbathers etc watching your wedding and filming it. some locations within hotels are a bit more private. fully private receptions will have an extra cost, whereas if you just want to use one of the restaurants thats normally included.
most resorts are really used to doing weddings and very experienced...so they have standard packages but you can add your own touches. i would say for example pretty much all of the hotels in cancun would handle your wedding very professionally and things will go off without a hitch.
ive only had one person majorly complaining that my wedding will be in cancun. thing is, i live in monterrey, mexico with my fiance. my family are all in london. so one set of family would have to travel! since my fiances family is about ten times bigger...makes more sense to do it in mexico, and cancun is a much prettier place to have it than monterrey (incredibly industrial, not much to do tourist wise). but my best friend was bitching and repeatedly asking why i couldnt just do it in england, and it was soo expensive and she didnt want to go there etc etc. not even a congratulations or a pretence to care about my wedding. i mean salaries are relative to the economy of the country...so whilst my mexican friends and family have good jobs and good salaries relative to here... their money just wouldnt stretch very far with london prices! and getting 80 mexicans to england is a lot more complicated than getting 10 or so english to mexico.
if people complain about it...i simply explain that its an invitation. as in i INVITE you to come. i understand its difficult and expensive.but you have the choice to come, or not. if not, i understand of course, but if you come dont come grudingly with little comments about how its a big ask and really i shouldnt be doing it
Originally Posted by auroraborealis
I've been engaged for a year now, and I am finally starting to try and plan our wedding.
I'm so lost when it comes to planning. We would really like to be able to keep the costs down as much as possible, as we are trying to save up for a down payment, and get ourselves in the right situation to be able to start a family in a couple of years.
I can't even figure out when to have it. Right now we are looking at February 2015 or 2016, which seems so far away! We are hoping to get posted somewhere out of our current town (Northern Alberta, Canada), and want to wait until we figure out where we will be living next before we settle on a date and location.
So, I guess my questions are:
-How did you settle on a location for your wedding?
-Is it even possible to have a nice wedding for less than 10k?
-How did you deal with the stress of people complaining about having to travel? This has started already, but our families live on different sides of the country, so someone is going to have to travel anyways...
-Are there any resorts that really cater to destination weddings? I have been looking at the individual resort websites, and those help, but I guess really what I'm looking for is the resort that includes the most without having to have a minimum number of bookings.
-What resorts are recommended?
...and probably about a million other questions too, but I think those are my major ones right now! I am SUPER impressed with all of the information on this website, it seems to be so helpful!
thank you all very much