I've known I've always wanted a dw, but i've always known my mother HATES them! I mean the whole meaning of hate, any time any one of our family friends has had a dw I've had to listen to her rant about how could some one think that they needed to go away and celebrate for a whole week and have people spend an insane amount of money to go.
So i knew telling her and my dad that is what i wanted was going to be a fight. But last night i decided that i have to tell them sooner or later and maybe sooner is better than later.
Now i understand where she is coming from, it is a lot of money, but should i have to give up my dream of what i want to fit what they want? no. i dont think i should have too.
Also, you have to understand my sister got married last year and we are SO SO SO different, she wanted a small wedding (60 people) and was able to a her whole wedding under $5 000 including EVERYTHING! and it was beautiful, probably the most beautiful wedding i've been thats been in Canada, but i also no that is not what i want if i was to get married at home, I would want a huge wedding with all my family and friends, so a dw was a way for my fiance to a) get down the wedding size to a size he was comfortable with and be able to afford a wedding by ourselfs. As well i have another sister who choose not to get married even though she has been with the guy for ten years.
My family has a very strong opinion on weddings. That big weddings are a waste of money. My mom and dad only had a wedding because they were forced too.
But i am very different from them and have always been the extravagant one.
But my real problem is I have another sister who could probably not afford to take herself and her daughter. It not only is extremely important to me that she is there but even more important that her daughter is there. I LOVE this little girl. I understand some of my friends and family will not come, but she is my sister.
So this was all brought up last night when i told my parents this is what i wanted and my mom said to me "well what would you do if your sister couldnt afford to come" and than my father said "I dont think i would come if you had a dw wedding. it is a waste of money, you could put that towards a house"
I tried to show him how it would actually cheaper, because i have planned both of the weddings out cost wise down to the last flower. It is a $15,000 difference between the two weddings i have budgetted out. and he still wouldnt listen.
I left last night feeling horrible, like some one had just told me there wasnt a santa. i feel like this is MY wedding, my one day where my fiance and i get to say what we want and how we want it and not care what other people think. but should i be reconcidering?
I have also told my parents that I would pay for my sister to be there. I'd also like to point out we have choosen not to get married till april 2014 which gives every one A HUGE AMOUNT OF TIME TO SAVE!!!!!