I got engaged one Christmas day and i promised myself I would stay calm relaxed, and enjoy being engaged for a bit before i started serious planning. Well those good intentions flew out of the window almost immediately, casual browsing turned into obsessive internet searches! I decided on a date (April 6 2013) and an area...cancun/playa del carmen
And after that ive made no progress whatsoever! and im starting to get overwhelmed and stressed, despite having over a year before my planned wedding date!
Here are some of my pet peeves:
ive emailed more than one hotel wedding planner with questions....and received a generic information pack with no answers whatsoever (for example some websites only display 2012 prices...and i need to know how much they will change)
'All inclusive' wedding packages that to me dont really seem all that all inclusive. Like 'heres the package, of course flowers, decorations, music, entertainment and food and X Y Z are not included'. I just want to see one price! Or if they could invent a cost calculator, instead of telling me the price for 20 people and extra prices for extra people and extra services- i would love to just type in numbers and what i want and have the price just automatically flash up. My maths skills are apparently incredibly poor even with a calculator
How am i supposed to know if my guests will stay at the resort or not?! one hotel wants 80% guests to stay there and i dont know if they will or not! am i supposed to pay for guest passes if they don't, who knows?¬
and there are just so many different different hotel options, im overwhelmed!! My fiance is saying things like "its your special day, do whatever you want that makes you happy providing we can pay for it" which is sweet, but im pretty sure its secret man language for "i dont want to help with the arrangements, they dont interest me. just tell me where to turn up"
Final bit of the vent (actually i do feel less stressed already!) is that apparently entire extended family of Mexican fiance had to be included. They seem to think 80-100 is a really small wedding when i had imagined something much more intimate (well to be fair, we live in North Mexico,Monterrey where people regularly have upwards of 250-300 people so it is small comparitively). i can just imagine those numbers going up as well!
would this all be simpler with a seperate wedding planner?
Oh lord im beginning to think it would be easier to get married in England hahaha
And now im calmer