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ex MOH Venting (long) had to end long term friendship.


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#1 Mylissa

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    Posted 20 January 2012 - 01:16 PM

     

    I had and issue as well.  I thought asking my long friend of about 17-18 years was the right thing to do but for a year it just stressed me out. Having to wonder or worry if she will make it, if she will start doing anything, if she will act remotely concerned about any aspect of it without me having to e-mail her to get some kind of responds about the wedding, she nixed me out of her wedding after I asked her to be my MOH she got engaged and nixed me form being in it but wanted me to all the duties like I was, she lied to me constantly,  it was like I was her template to compete against after a while, she showed no REAL TRUE honest excitement about me getting married, when everyone else was so excited and happy for me and left obviously exited comments on my wedding page she only wrote “nice web page so far”, She said she could not afford to go to both the wedding and batch party, then she said since she is not going to the batch party I should plan it myself basically,  everything was about her as if she needed to be constant center of attention, the only reason the past few years she come to see me was if her daughter who lives on my side of town wanted to stay in the area on her weekend together, she did not want to give me a shower,  she never asked me about the wedding I had to send her e-mails, she basically the past few year did not answer the phone so much we became text/email friends, she never seems to be generally happy for anything good that happens for me like it’s fake, she started boast so much about herself on facebook I never wanted to visit hers it was so ridiculous and silly.  Me getting married did not end out friendship, it just took a big event to see their was no give and take in our relationship anymore just take, lies, and fakeness and as you get older all that is just not expectable anymore and I had to nix her from my life. It was the single most hurtful thing to come to terms with but once I did I was overjoyed about it, I am generally happier every day now and less stressed, I moved on pretty quickly to replace her in my wedding with someone who is a true honest friend to me and she could not be happier about it.  Sometimes you just have to cut ties with people, it can be sad but worth it.  



    #2 Dominican Ally

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      Posted 20 January 2012 - 10:27 PM

      It's sad, but I think there are times in our life that we have to let go of people who are no longer a positive factor in our lives.

       


      Can't wait to marry my best friend on April 11, 2013!

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      #3 starchild

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        Posted 21 January 2012 - 10:32 AM

        That stinks.  I'm glad you came to terms with it and are happier now.  You learn a lot about people when planning a wedding! 



        #4 yunric

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          Posted 13 March 2012 - 06:56 PM

          sometimes you just have to wash your hands of people. So sorry

          #5 principessa

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            Posted 14 March 2012 - 07:07 AM

            I'm sorry - it sucks to lose people from your life, but in the end you're better off without those toxic people in it!  Now you have more time for your true friends, and for those who deserve your time :)






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