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#71 jenferrara

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    Posted 13 April 2013 - 07:13 AM

    I'm choosing a destination wedding because I live in Texas and my family is very very small and my fianc©s family is very large so it would just be a whole lot less stressful and more enjoyable to have a wedding where we could only have our immediate family and they can enjoy a little vacation at the same time. Another reason is that we are two college students and money is tight so the best option for us would be to have a beautiful wedding and honeymoon in one. :)

    #72 dsulivera

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      Posted 13 April 2013 - 09:21 AM

      Our reason for having a destination wedding was more of a compromise.  We love our tropical vacations and he ended up proposing at our favorite getaway, Beach Palace (literally every other vacation we go on, even if the place is more luxurious or "nicer", he always looks at me and says "I wish we were at Beach Palace" lol).  I wanted the big wedding at the Palm House at the Brooklyn Botanic Garden, but he is not the most sociable person and we joke that he hates everyone, so he would have rather eloped.  I told him no way, no how, i've been planning my wedding forever and his response was "well, what about a smaller wedding at Beach Palace?".  I couldn't help but laugh because it really did make perfect sense.  We looked into LeBlanc, but my little brother will only be 16 at the time and wouldn't be allowed to attend the wedding, so we had to stick with the vacation that we call "home", which is perfectly fine.  I can't wait to share our favorite place with all of our guests



      #73 KJRAZZLE

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        Posted 12 April 2013 - 07:26 AM

        This is such a great question. I love reading everyone's reasons for having a DW :) FutureMrsNamysl I wish you and your FI the best in his recovery, you are a strong woman.

         

        My FI and I decided to have a DW for a bunch of reasons.

         

        - We knew we both wanted a DW so that we could create a memorable week or weekend with our closest families and friends, and had been looking into renting a large vacation home where we could just hold a wedding on the property. A friend of ours recommended having at an all inclsive resort instead and we were instantly sold. It allowed us to create all of the fun memories with everyone but without the stress of food, wedding planning, setup, etc.

         

        - My FI met online. I am from Southern California and he is from Ottawa, Canada so our families are spread out all over the two countries. No matter where we hold our wedding people will have to travel to attend. We love to travel so we decided why not have everyone go someplace different, so it could be a vacation for us and all of our guests.

         

        - As harsh as it sounds, we each have a lot of family members we have to invite out of obligation, but don't really want attending. We want to have a wedding with people we really love and care about, and who want to be there for us not for free food and booze, or because they feel obligated to attend.

         

        - We also knew that we would be able to get more for our money. Since we are paying for our wedding for ourselves and don't want to put it all on credit that was key for us. We each have had a lot of cousins getting married recently who are spending 50K plus on weddings that are only for a few hours. Whereas we knew we could have a DW and spend 7 nights with our favorite people for half of the price.



        #74 MrsTobeD

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          Posted 12 April 2013 - 12:13 PM

          Originally Posted by BrideBabe 

          Actually my FI brought up the idea of a destination wedding because we love to travel and could never get people to travel with us! I originally felt weird only because I didnt want to be a financial burden to anyone and deal with the stress of people being excluded based on $$$. Then I compared prices with a few of my traditional brides and it was a no brainer once I saw how much we would save and how easy the planning would be. Quite a few family and friends are going to make it and for those who cant, we will have great pics and video and a party when we return home!! 

           

          Consider all of the pros and cons for each and do whats best for you!!!

           

          Your idea of a party sounds good, I thought about it but I just feel like for us, it will be another big expense, we are planning an engagement party right now, we talked about 3K, then the budget when up to 6K and at the end of the day, I know is going to end up at around 8K. I told FI that our engagement party is for people to get a feel of what it would be when in Mexico, get them all excited, and also, they can take it as our celebration if they cant make it to the wedding. 



          #75 jenferrara

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            Posted 13 April 2013 - 07:13 AM

            I'm choosing a destination wedding because I live in Texas and my family is very very small and my fianc©s family is very large so it would just be a whole lot less stressful and more enjoyable to have a wedding where we could only have our immediate family and they can enjoy a little vacation at the same time. Another reason is that we are two college students and money is tight so the best option for us would be to have a beautiful wedding and honeymoon in one. :)

            #76 dsulivera

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              Posted 13 April 2013 - 09:21 AM

              Our reason for having a destination wedding was more of a compromise.  We love our tropical vacations and he ended up proposing at our favorite getaway, Beach Palace (literally every other vacation we go on, even if the place is more luxurious or "nicer", he always looks at me and says "I wish we were at Beach Palace" lol).  I wanted the big wedding at the Palm House at the Brooklyn Botanic Garden, but he is not the most sociable person and we joke that he hates everyone, so he would have rather eloped.  I told him no way, no how, i've been planning my wedding forever and his response was "well, what about a smaller wedding at Beach Palace?".  I couldn't help but laugh because it really did make perfect sense.  We looked into LeBlanc, but my little brother will only be 16 at the time and wouldn't be allowed to attend the wedding, so we had to stick with the vacation that we call "home", which is perfectly fine.  I can't wait to share our favorite place with all of our guests



              #77 gresley

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                Posted 02 May 2013 - 10:33 AM

                I think our reason for choosing a DW was part creativity, and part exhaustion!

                 

                We've been together for a long time, and through the years moved to various places across the country before settling in CA. This means friends are all spread out. Our family is also fairly spread out all along the east coast. Trying to deal with wedding+moving meant planning was always frustrating, and after a while we just didn't want to do it.

                 

                First we tried planning a CA wedding -- hoping for something small, and that some of our family would be able to make the trip out here. We did a bunch of venue shopping and though we found places we loved, the logistics were complicated... We found vineyards we loved, near an airport, but nowhere near a hotel. We found beachy hotels we loved, but they're no where near an airport. We ended up figuring how much it would cost for our close family, siblings to fly out here. and rent a car. and get a hotel. and get to the venue. and tried to figure out how we'd be able to accomodate travel. It just wasn't happening, and would have cost each person over $1k in flights+hotel just to come....  It would be a long flight for our older relatives, so our grandparents might not be able to come. Talked to my mom, who agreed that most people wouldn't come, so I need to choose between venue and family.

                 

                So, plan B. Let's get married back home in FL! Now the whole family can come! Okay, that means a lot more cost a logistics for us, because we have to plan remotely. Did some venue shopping along the beach, and met a huge sticker shock. Hotels with a MINIMUM of a $40k budget. Places "on the beach" but not offering any receptions anywhere near the sand. Everything was loud and busy, because it's south FL. Ended up not really loving any of the places we looked at (we ended up visiting 6-8 different venues), and coming back to CA frustrated. Ended up tossing all the venue info in a box and giving up. We talk to our friends who did a remote-planned wedding, it ended up having them fly cross county 5+ times to plan, and they ended up not being able to spend much time with a lot of the friends/family that flew in, because the wedding day was so busy.

                 

                People start bringing up the wedding more frequently, and eventually stop all together, because it becomes a sore subject. That becomes the bad sign, that the wedding has become the elephant in the room, and we decide we really need to reconsider what we want to do. I start joking with close friends and family "How would you feel about just the few of us eloping to someplace tropical. How does Bali sound? ;)"

                 

                Recently, it clicked. My thought process went something like this ---

                What do we really want in our wedding. We want it to be the people we really care about. We want it to be easy for our FL family, especially our grandparents. We want to really spend time with people, especially since we don't see them very often living so far away. We'd love someplace fun, unique, and hopefully tropical. We want a vacation with friends. But flying everyone to Bali wouldn't be unrealistic. Future grandparents hate travelling but love cruises. A cruise, huh? If we went on a cruise, could we get married at one of the ports it stops at? Toes in the sand? Check. Easy for FL family? Check. Fun vacation for friends? Check. Small guest list? Check. Fun, unique, and creative? Triple check.

                 

                Then I found this forum, and after about 10 minutes decided OKAY THIS IS HAPPENING. I know it's going to be very different, and that a lot of people won't come, but the important thing is the people who we really want to come actually can, and we can have a several day long awesome vacation making memories with people we don't see very much but hold dearly in our hearts.

                 

                This forum is the best :D I'm finally excited about the wedding again.



                #78 Soon2BeMrsHall

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                  Posted 02 May 2013 - 05:45 PM

                  I choose a destination wedding because I really want the day to be about my fiance and I...I like the idea of it being intimate and just our closest friends and family so we really get to enjoy the day and spend time with them. Ive had many friends wish they would of done destination wedding instead of a big one because they were busy the whole reception talking to people they didnt get to enjoy it.



                  #79 MrsTobeD

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                    Posted 03 May 2013 - 08:51 AM

                    Your post is awesome :-)

                     

                     

                    Originally Posted by gresley 

                    I think our reason for choosing a DW was part creativity, and part exhaustion!

                     

                    We've been together for a long time, and through the years moved to various places across the country before settling in CA. This means friends are all spread out. Our family is also fairly spread out all along the east coast. Trying to deal with wedding+moving meant planning was always frustrating, and after a while we just didn't want to do it.

                     

                    First we tried planning a CA wedding -- hoping for something small, and that some of our family would be able to make the trip out here. We did a bunch of venue shopping and though we found places we loved, the logistics were complicated... We found vineyards we loved, near an airport, but nowhere near a hotel. We found beachy hotels we loved, but they're no where near an airport. We ended up figuring how much it would cost for our close family, siblings to fly out here. and rent a car. and get a hotel. and get to the venue. and tried to figure out how we'd be able to accomodate travel. It just wasn't happening, and would have cost each person over $1k in flights+hotel just to come....  It would be a long flight for our older relatives, so our grandparents might not be able to come. Talked to my mom, who agreed that most people wouldn't come, so I need to choose between venue and family.

                     

                    So, plan B. Let's get married back home in FL! Now the whole family can come! Okay, that means a lot more cost a logistics for us, because we have to plan remotely. Did some venue shopping along the beach, and met a huge sticker shock. Hotels with a MINIMUM of a $40k budget. Places "on the beach" but not offering any receptions anywhere near the sand. Everything was loud and busy, because it's south FL. Ended up not really loving any of the places we looked at (we ended up visiting 6-8 different venues), and coming back to CA frustrated. Ended up tossing all the venue info in a box and giving up. We talk to our friends who did a remote-planned wedding, it ended up having them fly cross county 5+ times to plan, and they ended up not being able to spend much time with a lot of the friends/family that flew in, because the wedding day was so busy.

                     

                    People start bringing up the wedding more frequently, and eventually stop all together, because it becomes a sore subject. That becomes the bad sign, that the wedding has become the elephant in the room, and we decide we really need to reconsider what we want to do. I start joking with close friends and family "How would you feel about just the few of us eloping to someplace tropical. How does Bali sound? ;)"

                     

                    Recently, it clicked. My thought process went something like this ---

                    What do we really want in our wedding. We want it to be the people we really care about. We want it to be easy for our FL family, especially our grandparents. We want to really spend time with people, especially since we don't see them very often living so far away. We'd love someplace fun, unique, and hopefully tropical. We want a vacation with friends. But flying everyone to Bali wouldn't be unrealistic. Future grandparents hate travelling but love cruises. A cruise, huh? If we went on a cruise, could we get married at one of the ports it stops at? Toes in the sand? Check. Easy for FL family? Check. Fun vacation for friends? Check. Small guest list? Check. Fun, unique, and creative? Triple check.

                     

                    Then I found this forum, and after about 10 minutes decided OKAY THIS IS HAPPENING. I know it's going to be very different, and that a lot of people won't come, but the important thing is the people who we really want to come actually can, and we can have a several day long awesome vacation making memories with people we don't see very much but hold dearly in our hearts.

                     

                    This forum is the best :D I'm finally excited about the wedding again.



                    #80 gresley

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                      Posted 03 May 2013 - 06:54 PM

                      Originally Posted by MrsTobeD 

                      Your post is awesome :-)

                       

                       

                      Thanks :D I love how you ladies understand what I'm going through. I tell my friends and they look at me like I have some sort of mental disorder for not being able to plan a nice normal wedding like everyone else.






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