Bridesmaid Advice

[Cherina]

If I would chose I would go with Your sister in law, that's special for you both and she seems to be calming to you, which is what you will need. This is your time and your day and pushiness about a spouse not in a bridal party is childish; I have been to weddings where my husband all 3 of my children at the time were in the wedding, did I care nope! Because why we are new friends the women standing with her have been friends for life as it should be. As for you maids they need to realize this is about you and they are there to support you. Otherwise they need not stand beside you because creating unnecessary stress is not the job description. You deserve to have a MOH you can run to, who can step up and be the reliable, helpful and calming person you need. I have a maidOH and a madenOH that HATE each other and have since middle school but I promise you this they love me enough to not stress me and work together for my benefit because that's what MOH's BM's and BFF's do! Sorry for the long winded was I am just angry for you.

[jolene028]

Go with your gut it sounds to me reading that paragraph that you have already made your choice and are having a hard time telling the other one that it isnt them! Good friends will be good friends no matter who you chose and maybe this is a time where you will find out who your good friends are!

[ANGELA2013]

Originally Posted by Ty Roane 

 

I am so sad that you are facing this.  I would just forgo having a MOH.  Keep everyone as BM, but ultimately, if you want a certain person, do what you want.  It is your day! Not Trina's.  Remind her that she had her dream day and now it is your turn.  Thank her for being so helpful, but in the end it is about you and your FI.  And just explain the groomsman thing...and agin rference her wedding...See how the shoe feels on the other foot!

 

It's funny that you say that and referencing her wedding because she didn't invite my fiance or child. She at first said it was a guest list thing and then I found out it was because she doesn't like my FI.

[ANGELA2013]

Tanks for your advice ladies, it has been hard and gets worse all the time. Trina and Amber both argue with me about the reason they should be a moh, even though I have said that I want them all to be a bm so it's fair. They both say it's stupid that I won't choose one  and that I have to pick, I am really hating this whole thing more and more. Erin is the only one who tells me it's our day and that what matters and that I should do what I want.

[Aynat]

So what did you decide? If you have to pick MOB,I would either pick Erin or non at all! Erin is family, so that could be your excuse. It's not about how long you have known someone it's about who is there for YOU.

[ANGELA2013]

I decided to not have a MOH but they still argue with me about it and still say that I can't do it this way and that I have to choose.

[brgephar]

Seriously - they tell you that you CAN'T do it that way? You can do whatever you want - it is YOUR wedding! I'm sorry you are dealing with such nonsense, I really feel for you!