So I've heard back from my WC @ Iberostar and this is what she's come back with :
Sky Lanterns are not allowed
Cigar Rollers are available and she's looking into their pricing and will get back to me with that info.
Only white table cloths are available for free, they do carry 3 colors, Aqua, Fuschia and Orange for $10USD per table
Sashes are also available in these 3 colors for a $3UDS fee per chair
You are welcome to bring your own table decoration/sashes
For center pieces they have two options of which I did not like any... she has requested a picture of what I want/like to get a price quote from the florist
The menu at the steakhouse is limited but if you work with them and give them a heads up on your total number of guests they will accommodate you just push... because if you are paying to privatize the restaurant for your wedding only they must go out of their way for you even if they don't tell you up front. Just push push for what YOU want! Remember this is YOUR wedding day and you are spending YOUR $ at a resort that is already all inclusive! So don't give up and just be clear, always ask for what your options are whether you have to pay extra or not because ultimately you'll be the one to decide what you want and can go forward with! So be nice but be stern and you'll get what you want.