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A Good Read - The Four Agreements

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#1 elisamarie

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    Posted 17 October 2011 - 08:23 PM

     Hi Ladies!


      After spending time reading through everyone's family dramas and wedding stresses ( including my own!)  - I thought about a book I read many years ago that I find really helpful for anyone and especially brides during this time. The book is called "The Four Agreements- A Toltec Wisdom Book" ( perfect for you Mexico brides!) it is by Don Miguel Ruiz. He is also the author of " Mastery of Love" which is really something profound to read if you are engaged or married.  Here is just an excerpt for you from "The Four Agreements". It has helped me through tough points in my life and I share it with you because I think it is also fitting for weddings!!!




    1) Be Impeccable with you word = Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to

                                                              gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.


    2) Dont' take anything personally = Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their

                                                              own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of

                                                              needless suffering.


                                                                (this one I find really important - I found it hard to not take it personally when people RSVP'd NO to

                                                                our wedding, only to find them booking trips for themselves at the same time. I try to remember this

                                                                rule when I feel insulted and it helps. I hope it can help you as well)


    3) Don't make assumptions = Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly

                                                     as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can

                                                      completely transform your life.


    4) Always do your best = Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to

                                              sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.



    Well, there's a sample for you, I hope it helps anyone going through wedding stress or even your general life. I really enjoy his writings and I wanted to share them with you. Best wishes!

    Getting married at Playa Pesquero! - 35 booked!!

    #2 emstypes

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      Posted 18 October 2011 - 05:25 PM

      Thanks for sharing elisamarie!  It puts things in perspective!  :)

      #3 YWS2012

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        Posted 18 October 2011 - 06:05 PM

        LOVE IT ..Thanks

        #4 lovepea

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          Posted 25 October 2011 - 12:57 PM

          very good points to remember


          #5 Katiem2012

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            Posted 01 November 2011 - 04:03 PM

            These are fantastic things to remember... point 2 is something I feel I could use very often... i usually do take things personally....

            #6 FutureMrsF

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              Posted 08 November 2011 - 05:39 AM

              Thanks for sharing. These are great things to remember throughout life, not just when planning a wedding.

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