Since my FI and I started planning our wedding in the DR we have had drama with my mom's side of the family complaining about how they can't come for one reason or another. It has been on excuse after another and I've come to realize she's just bad I am not having a wedding back home, where I don't live anymore. We stuck to our guns though and are very excited to head to the DR.
When asked the financial help question, my mom and her husband told us that they couldn't help us pay for the wedding. My MOH (sister) also asked her to help with my shower, same answer. She paid for half my dress, which I appreciate but I don't really consider it as contributing to the wedding expenses as our wedding is pretty expensive for a DW. Later they also told me they weren't coming, but that is an entirely different story.
My father and stepmom as well as my future inlaws contributed equal amounts to our wedding. (yay!) Their contribution is paying for 95% of our wedding expenses. When I ordered our invitations my dad, stepmom and inlaws names are on the invite, not my mother and her husband. So the invitation says "Mr and Mrs Bride's Dad together with Mr and Mrs Grooms Dad invite to to the wedding of..." Yesterday I got an irrate call from my grandmother (mom's side) saying I insulted the family by not including her on the invitation.
Am I wrong in this? My mom is not helping with any part of the wedding and not even attending. I looked it up and it said those throwing the wedding names' should be on the invitation.
I've been upset about this all last night. My FI told me not to worry about it, but I hate having anyone mad at me, especially my grandparents.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!