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How much do we tip the wedding coordinator?

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#41 redginger

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    Posted 26 October 2011 - 07:14 PM

    Here are some tips from Destination I Do Magazine. I don't think I will follow all the guidelines, but thought others might find this useful. I do think the $100 - $200 tip for the officiant/minister is excessive. The minister will only be there for 10 minutes for the ceremony and we're meeting him for the first time on the wedding day. We'll tip our wedding coordinator if she meets or exceeds our expectations on the wedding day (so far, she's hardly done any work for us and we're paying her a lot of money).  



    Tips on Tipping

    Tipping is a method for expressing your appreciation for a job well done.  When planning your wedding budget, it will be important to include gratuities in your calculations.

    When planning a destination wedding in locations other than the United States, it is prudent to check with your wedding coordinator in that locale.  Gratuities and customs vary from country to country and knowing expectations prior to the event will help in your budget planning.

    general considerations regarding tipping:

    1. Check your contracts and final bills ahead of time to see if a gratuity was included.  You don't need to double tip-unless of course, you want to.

    2. The host should carry an envelope with cash on the wedding day for unexpected tips.

    3.  In general, the owners of businesses do not receive tips.

    4.  Guests should not be expected to pay parking lot attendants or coatroom attendants.  This should be arranged in advance so that you can inform your guest with discreetly placed signage.

    5.  Wedding planners do not receive gratuities.

    6.  If you use a wedding planner they may be the person responsible for dispersing the tips on the wedding day.  If not, be sure to designate someone to handle this detail for you.

    check out the guidelines below for expectations and ranges:



    Service provider

    Range of tipping


    10-15% of liquor bill or $25-$50 per bartender


    15-20% of food and drink bill

    Coat & Powder Room Attendants

    $1-$2 per guest

    DJ or Musicians

    optional-$20-$25 each

    Florist, Photographer


    Limousine Driver (s)

    15-20% of limo bill if not included in contract

    Maitre d'hotel

    $1.50-$5.00 per guest

    Makeup Artist or Hairstylist

    15-20% of fee



    Valet Parking Attendants

    .50-$1 per car

    Wait Staff

    $10-$20 per staff member




    #42 pfeiffla

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      Posted 27 October 2011 - 06:16 PM

      What do you do if you purchased a wedding package?  Is the entire package amount considered the WC's fee?  Thanks for your input!

      Originally Posted by Sllefebvr 

      Here girls I did some research on destination weddings and here was the best result


      • You do not need to tip your florist unless he/she does something spectacular or really out-of-the-floral-realm for you. If he tracks down the filling for your goody bags, or she blows your mind with something you weren’t expecting, by all means, feel free to tip the florist. But it isn’t something you need to build into your budget.
      • You don’t need to tip your caterer, but you will need to tip the servers and bartenders. If you don’t have a wedding planner to guide you, ask the caterer what’s appropriate per person.
      • Don’t tip the photographer. If you adored her, order more prints!
      • Don’t tip the wedding cake baker.
      • Don’t tip a band, unless they stay extra time and don’t bill you for it.
      • Tip a DJ if he’s really, really good. $50 is more than enough.
      • If you’re staying in a small hotel and you’ve taken over the whole place for your wedding, be sure to tip the hotel manager/concierge who has helped you with everything. You should also tip the breakfast or housekeeping staff, but you don’t need to do it individually. Give a tip to the person in charge of that staff and ask them to split it with the people who worked during your wedding.
      • If you’re staying at a villa or private property with a house manager or caretaker, tip if you’re having the reception on the property and the person is being very helpful. Remember, the property owners made money on you. The caretaker or property manager is on salary and had to put up with you because it’s part of his job. If they do a great job, acknowledge it. If you have daily maid service, it’s appropriate to leave a tip of $2-$5 per day in your room. If you have a 5-bedroom house, you should tip $10 per day at the end of your stay if they did a good job.
      • Do not tip your wedding officiant.
      • Do not tip your rental equipment delivery guys — you paid a delivery fee already.
      • Finally, do tip your wedding planner. As self-serving as this may sound, I get asked this question a lot so I’m going to tackle it openly and honestly.

      If you have a good wedding planner who is charging you a reasonable fee and isn’t marking up your services, you should tip her at the end of your wedding if you are happy with her services. When deciding how much to tip, think about how much her total fee was, and think about how much money she saved you (there will be items that stick out when you think about it), and how challenging you may have been as a client. If you know you drove her nuts or were very demanding (and she was nice about it), compensate her for the extra time and effort she had to put in to your big day. Tip between 15 and 20 percent of her wedding fee. To some extend it’s like a restaurant, if you were satisfied, go 15 percent. If you were thrilled and she did a great job for you, go 20 percent or more. If you felt like she dropped the ball, give her 10 percent, or don’t tip her at all. A tip is supposed to be a gratuity for a job well done, whether it’s a waitress, a hairdresser or a wedding planner.

      The exception to the rule is the wedding planner who asks for a tip. That is just so gauche. Sometimes I’ll make a joke about it to my clients when they’re really super impressed with something I’ve done. When they’re telling me how great I am or how much money I’ve saved them, I’ll make some joke like “remember that when it’s time to tip me,” or something like that. But I’ve never ever told a bride up front that a tip was required, or asked a bride for a gratuity after the wedding. Some brides are just thoughtful. I’ve received lovely thank-you gifts and even sweeter notes — and those can be very rewarding as well.

      If you don’t use a wedding planner and a banquet manager or someone else from the hotel steps into that role for your wedding, be prepared to tip her at the end of the event as long as everything has gone smoothly. She is your de facto wedding planner and you should thank her for executing that role well. It doesn’t need to be as much as you would tip a wedding planner, but a token to let her know her work was appreciated is more than appropriate.

      So when your wedding planner gives you the list of tips you’ll need for your wedding a few weeks before the big day, take a moment to think about whether you’ll want to have some extra on hand to tip your planner too, assuming she delivers all that she promised on your wedding day. If in the end she doesn’t deserve it, spend it on a spa day on your honeymoon.


      #43 Michey

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        Posted 27 October 2011 - 06:31 PM

        I was wondering that too.

        My basic wedding package is 2500 but with, extras it comes to 5000, not including photographer and dj. But even if we just use the 2500, we really tip 20%, thats $500 for a tip. Guess I'm cheap b/c that seems high. 

        #44 pfeiffla

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          Posted 27 October 2011 - 07:10 PM

          I must be cheap too ;)    I thought doing a package would save me alot because it included everything...or at least most everything.  But at this point, our total cost is rallying with the price of having a huge wedding at home!!!



          Originally Posted by Michey 

          I was wondering that too.

          My basic wedding package is 2500 but with, extras it comes to 5000, not including photographer and dj. But even if we just use the 2500, we really tip 20%, thats $500 for a tip. Guess I'm cheap b/c that seems high. 


          #45 MJKH

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            Posted 27 October 2011 - 11:53 PM

            My wedding package is $5000 thru our all-inclusive resort in the Mayan Riviera and I plan to tip the WC $100-$200 if all goes well (or REALLY well)!

            #46 Brenners

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              Posted 28 October 2011 - 04:53 PM

              I think you need to tip what you can afford and what you think is reasonable for the services that you are provided. 

              #47 CeeBubble

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                Posted 29 October 2011 - 10:27 AM

                Totally agree, Brenners. Here's a question for the ages: Is what's reasonable to one seem like far too much to some, or not nearly enough to others? 


                Basically, I'm curious to know more details about the services you'll pay for and what you expect in return. Let us know?


                Miss Manners 

                #48 memckinnon

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                  Posted 29 October 2011 - 11:37 AM

                  so helpful thank you!

                  #49 DeeDee1

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                    Posted 31 October 2011 - 06:26 AM

                    I was wondering this as well.  Thank you for the detailed info!  Very helpful.


                    #50 WorkingOnIt

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                      Posted 10 November 2011 - 01:32 PM

                      I agree that you need to tip what you can, and based upon your experience.  I would hope that on my wedding day, everything in perfect.  But we do not live in a perfect world.  I think most professionals would understand that 20% of a $100 dinner is a bit different than a $5000 wedding package.  Weddings are expensive enough without having to worry about a few grand in tips! 

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