I have found some similar threads, but it still didn't help too much with how to word our website and/or invitations.
Here's my dilemma and I am sure I am going to get flack for this, but here it goes...
I am pretty much the last one of my friends to get married, therefore almost everyone single one of my friends has 1-3 kids already (not including our extended families, i.e. cousin's kids, etc...). I have 2 nephews and 1 niece and FI has 1 niece. We really want them at our wedding so, that is why we chose a "Family Friendly" resort. Obviously, this would not be an issue had we just chosen an Adult Only resort.
As we were going through our guest list, if everyone came that we invited and brought their kids, there would be 25+ kids there (NO JOKE) that's extended family and our friends. As most of you know, you usually have to pay per head or table or whatever and it's not cheap. First off, we don't think we can afford to have 25 extra people there, even if they are kids, granted I know they are not as expensive in some cases, but still...2nd....We do not necessarily want 25 kids to come to our wedding, that would almost outnumber the adults!
It's sounds ridiculous and I know we should just pay the consequences of having it at a family friendly resort, but my plan was to put somewhere on our website and our invitations that the wedding is adults only. I do not have a problem with children and love my nieces and nephews hence the family friendly resort and couldn't imagine not having them there, but I never pictured my wedding with sooooo many kids there. Even with the people that i think are "for sures", there would still be 15 kids there.....
I have told some people that we aren't having kids except immediate family, and of course they are saying I'm not coming or I wouldn't bring them anyways. But others are saying what a great family trip it's going to be....I feel terrible to an extent, but they all had adults only (destination and home weddings) I know, I am going to get a lot "well, we are not going" but it is what it is. My FI, especially is pretty set/stern on not having any other kids there. So, I want to phrase it as graciously/nicely as possible.....But I know it's pretty tricky!
Thanks in advance!!!