So my fiance lives at home with this parents and his younger sister(16), and we are getting married in 2013. We both picked out who was going to be our bridal party. I picked my bridesmaids and he picked his groomsmen. so about a week ago we were at his house and his mom asked who was going to be my bridesmaids. I said Robyn(best friend), and my two sisters. I immediately received dirty looks and what I call the death glare. we go upstairs were he tells me he is super sorry but his mom had asked him like a month ago for his little sister to be involved(obviously from the looks, as a bridesmaid) because she is his only sister and what not. At this point I was angry at him for not telling me sooner but he said he was super nervous(because when we talked about getting engaged/married I told him my only thing was i didnt want Alix(his sister) as a bridesmaid and he agreed that was okay. I dont want her as a bridesmaid because we dont get along, she is always rude to me, she steals my clothes, She steals money and clothes from my fiance and she is mommy's little girl so she never gets in trouble. and we never hang out because when i ask her to do something she agrees and then just takes off to talk to her bf or watch tv)
But I agreed she could be a junior bridesmaid. then I went to his house and she was "i think i should be a bridesmaid" and Taggart said why. she said because she wanted to wear a dress. ya she wants a dress. then when Taggart said well that really isnt a reason she said well i deserve it and did not give an answer other then well im your sister and i deserve to be standing up there. after this I was pissed. and I don't want her in my bridal party at all.
Taggarts mom then texts him saying im rude to alix and alix always has ber back up because im a bitch to her. and his mom witnesses this when im over. I dont go to his house. and when i do I dont talk because his dad always makes little comments to belittle me, his sister is always rude to be and his mom is rude because she thinks im rude to ger daughter and probably to her son too.
My question is how do I deal with this. Right now Im questioning getting married into this and what my life will be like when we start our family. I almost just want to stay engaged so I don't have to make a choice and of course my fiance is in a tough spot and I feel horrible for him, I don't know what to do.