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#51 Geralyn

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    Posted 27 April 2009 - 10:26 PM

    I am crying now! My dad just passed away on New years so have been thinking of ways to honor him during the wedding...thanks for the post

    #52 ~Jessica~

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      Posted 29 April 2009 - 01:10 PM

      I wanted to honor my grandmother during the ceremony as well. I really wish she was here to share my special day with me. And if found a neat idea of putting a small photo of her in a frame and attaching it to my bouquet. So it as if she is walking down the aisle with me, like i wish she was.

      If the link just takes you to the main website, search "photo buckle"

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      #53 destination

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        Posted 29 April 2009 - 10:21 PM

        Originally Posted by MsShelley
        Alot of girls on here are going to be missing someone very important to them on their wedding day. For me, it's my Mom.... So, I have been searching for ways to include my lost loved ones in my wedding day, and I thought I would post a couple ideas....

        Possible program wording:

        Perhaps they are not stars but rather openings in heaven

        Where the love of our lost ones pours through

        And shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.

        Celebrating with us in spirit

        A memory table with their photos and then

        “Those we love don't go away,
        They walk beside us every day.
        Unseen, unheard, but always near,
        Still loved, still missed and very dear.”

        In loving memory of those who are no longer with us…

        (and then listing their names)


        “We thought of you with love today, but that is nothing new.
        We thought about you yesterday and days before that, too.
        We think of you in silence, we often speak your name.
        All we have are memories and your picture in a frame.
        Your memory is our keepsake, with which we’ll never part.
        God has you in His keeping, we have you in our hearts.”

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        In Loving Memory

        Perhaps they are not the stars
        But rather openings in heaven
        Where the love of our lost ones
        Pours through
        And shines down upon us
        To let us know they are happy

        Thank you for loving and sharing
        For giving and caring.
        God bless you and keep you,
        Until we meet again.

        I'll Miss You at the Wedding
        I'll miss you at the wedding,
        with all the family near.
        Friends and neighbors will be there too,
        all whom I hold so dear.

        When I turn to look at them,
        I'll see your empty space.
        But because I know you're watching
        it's a very honored place.

        And I know that you'll be happy too
        because you see that we're in love.
        In my heart, I know you are
        You're watching from above.

        If Tears Could Build A Stairway
        If tears could build a stairway
        and memories were a lane
        We would walk right up to heaven
        And bring you back again.
        No farewell words were spoken
        No time to say goodbye
        You were gone before we knew it
        And only God knows why
        Our hearts still ache in sadness
        and secret tears still flow
        What it meant to lose you
        No one will ever know
        But now we know you want us
        To mourn for you no more
        To remember all the happy times
        Life still has much in store
        Since you'll never be forgotten
        We pledge to you today
        A cherished place within our heart
        Is where you'll always stay

        Whispers from heaven

        When I left this world without you
        I know it made you blue.
        Your tears fell so freely,
        I watched; I know this is true.

        While you were weeping,
        Days after I passed away-
        While all was silent within me,
        I saw you kneel and pray.

        From the wonderful place called heaven
        Where all my pain is gone,
        I send a gentle breeze to whisper,
        "My loved ones, please go on."

        The peace that I have found here
        Goes far beyond compare
        No rain, no clouds, no suffering-
        Just LOVE from everywhere.

        You need not be troubled
        Just stay close to GOD in prayer
        Someday we'll be reunited
        My love, HIS love surrounds you always,

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        That brought tears to my eyes! I will be missing my dad on my wedding day and will honor him with a bouquet marking his empty chair and a pic of him on my bouquet. For the AHR my mom is doing a floral arrangement from the garden he built for her 13 years ago and she still tends with love every summer.

        #54 destination

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          Posted 29 April 2009 - 10:40 PM

          Good Luck finding the perfect way to honor those who have left you behind... in the end I think that - the people that you have loved that passed away are still with you. No matter what you say for them... they know that the love was a two way street and love does not need words.
          I THINK THIS SAYS IT ALL... I am taking this into consideration as I read this thread and cry...12 years after losing my dad.
          Originally Posted by Gail
          Thanks for this post and for all of your ideas. My FI mother just passed away unexpectedly. Our wedding is just 9 mths after her death. The entire family was close and they are having such a hard time. I have been struggling with how to include her in ceremony but not to tear everyone up. I don't think I could have anything read without everyone bursting out crying.
          I love memory frame.

          How did everyone set up table? Do you think that would be to hard. Need some help on how to handle since they are still morning
          I'm thinking a table would be too much for me; one simple vase at the AHR will be sufficient to get the emotions flowing. I know my dad won't want me crying on my wedding day over him.
          Originally Posted by BelizeBride
          Its nice to read the various poems, but also really hard. I fear that incorporating some of these ideas into my wedding will cause me to cry uncontrollably. My mom died 10 years ago and sometimes I think I am dealing with it just fine and time has helped my adjust, and other times I realize its still as hard as the day she died. Not sure how incorporating these things will make me feel.
          I feel your fear! I'm having it too. Remembering my bro's wedding 5 years ago: we lit a candle for my dad before the ceremony and I was crying before it even started. I love my dad, but might be better served to remember him quietly (with th photo on my bouquet).
          I'm now rethinking the empty chair....

          #55 TheFutureMrs.Sears

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            Posted 17 May 2009 - 11:34 AM

            Thank you for posting this thread. I lost my mom and my FI lost his grandfather and I was thinking of way to recognize them at the wedding and these ideas are wonderful..thanks again.

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            #56 Joss

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              Posted 29 July 2009 - 01:46 AM

              this post makes me feel sad. Not only because i lost my mom shortly after graduation, but because so many people on BDW have lost loved ones. I've been wondering how to remember those loved ones who can't be there without creating too much of a sombre tone.

              The locket is especially lovely. As a variation of a theme, we're considering using a locket of my FI's father on his boutonniere. Now, how to do it without bursting into tears, that's the hard part!

              #57 Run girl Run

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                Posted 29 July 2009 - 07:56 AM

                Thank you for sending this. My wedding day will be without my parents and a sister. I will definitely take some of your suggestions to heart and include them in our special day. Thank you again.

                #58 bnbrmy

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                  Posted 28 January 2010 - 05:23 AM

                  I lost my little brother in e
                  2007, When he was 18 he was my entire life, and it just doesn't seem right not including him in the wedding
                  This is what I have decided to do. I found novelty cuff links on ebay that have 'brother of the bride' written on them.I am also going to have a boutonnier and picture of him. All will be sitting in the first seat on my side.
                  If anybody else has lost a male member of the family and would like to do the cuff links they had ones for fathers,brothers,grandfathers,and uncles of both the bride and groom. I thought it was a cute idea.

                  #59 sunstarsmoon

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                    Posted 28 January 2010 - 10:06 AM

                    this is such a nice thread. always need a kleenex when I read thru the different poems and ways to remember those we have lost!
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                    #60 Tonir

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                      Posted 28 January 2010 - 03:47 PM

                      We are having our reception at a private villa in St. Thomas. It will be outside around the pool so I wanted to somehow decorate the pool and discovered some floating Chinese paper lanterns. As I researched I found that this is actually the way the Chinese memorialized those that had past. So I plan on having a lantern for each person we want to remember (grandparents) and a little explanation in a frame possibly somewhere near the pool.

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