In Memory Of...

[IrishgirlinNY]

Glendale! Wow! Right next door. I lived in Ridgewood until I was in jr high but still went to 77 down on Seneca. Basically hung out in Glendale. Most of my friends lived in Glendale and we were rright on the border by Myrtle & Fresh Pond. Always nice to meet someone right around the corner! Congratulations to you, too!

[PrincssScorpion7]

Thanks ladies for the help! Not that I wanted to cry at work first thing this morning. lol Now I know how to make sure there is some part of my father at my wedding.

[BlondeLlamaTreww]

 

 

My fiance lost his mom a couple years ago. It's a tricky situation because I never met her, and he was extremely close to her. We've agreed that we don't want to have pictures or "In memory of" poems because we want the day to focus on us, our families coming together, and our new future together. However, we didn't want to completely ignore the situation. This was our compromise:

 

Since the wedding is in Hawaii, and my mother and his grandmother will be wearing leis instead of corsages, I'm going to have a lei draped over the chair where his mother would be sitting. Then his grandmother, father, and he will place a white rose on her chair (her favorite flower) before taking their places. I'm also going to make sure the the minister includes a prayer in remembrance of all of our lost ones before beginning the ceremony. I'm hoping this will be an appropriate tribute.

 

Any feedback?

[MDLady]

BlondeLlamaTreww - that is an absolutely beautiful gesture. Very tasteful and loving. I'm sure it will make many people cry but also be such a nice tribute to your FI's Mom.. I can't imagine completely ignoring the issue so you are doing the right thing.

 

We have a section in our Ceremony Brochure dedicated to our grandparents that have passed away. Since it's all of them for both of us, we didn't want to do anything for each one other than write out how much of a blessing they were in our lives and how we love and miss them. Just as a way to honor them. I am sure both of our parents will be touched since they don't know that we are including the grandparents in the brochure.

[pinktigerlily]

I have been trying to come up with a memorial idea and I am stumped. My situation is a little different... My FI and I had a stillborn son (April made a year ago). We actually postponed our wedding previously because of this. This is still a really fresh wound but I really would like Dylan's memory to be a part of our special day. I don't want to have a tearfest though. I am actually crying now that I am thinking about it. Any ideas? He had Trisomy 13 so I thought about adding the awareness pin in my bouquet or maybe one of the mini frames with his footprints.

[BlondeLlamaTreww]

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Originally Posted by pinktigerlily I have been trying to come up with a memorial idea and I am stumped. My situation is a little different... My FI and I had a stillborn son (April made a year ago). We actually postponed our wedding previously because of this. This is still a really fresh wound but I really would like Dylan's memory to be a part of our special day. I don't want to have a tearfest though. I am actually crying now that I am thinking about it. Any ideas? He had Trisomy 13 so I thought about adding the awareness pin in my bouquet or maybe one of the mini frames with his footprints.

Pinktigerlily- I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine how devastating that must have been, and still is, for you and your fiance. I think either of those things would be a beautiful tribute. What about instead of favors/OOT bags, donating that money to a nonprofit for Trisomy 13 or having a tree planted in his honor? You could just include a little note in the programs or place cards that explains why you chose the charity. That way you don't have to directly address it the day of (so your mascara will stay intact) but you will still be able to honor your son's memory.

[kingshead]

I am also so sorry for your loss Pinktigerlily (and all the others who have posted here). I lost my mom six years ago and plan to have a beautiful flower arrangement to represent her spirit, which will be with us at the ceremony. There are some wonderful ideas here on how to include her in the ceremony script. I haven't got that far yet...except that I know I want to say something to her/about her. Thanks for this post. It made me cry. Rebecca

[kingshead]

By the way...does anyone know how to bookmark posts they want to re-visit? I have found so many that I want to return to but not sure how to do it...duh! Please help the amateur! Rebecca

[TheFutureMrs.Sears]

I lost my mother 12 years ago this saturday and since then I have lost two grandparents and my fiance lost his grandfather and great grandmother. We are having a bouquet of white roses in a vase at the ceremony and then it will be moved to the reception area. I also include a poem in the program and underneath it says our Guardian Angels with everyone's name and title (mom, grandfather etc)

 

I work with amazing people and they threw me a surpise bridal shower and gave me a memory photo frame for my bouquet with my mother's picture in it. Needless to say I was hysterical. My friend called my fiance for a picture and he dropped it off to her and gave it to an art teacher and he retouched the picture. I came out beautiful!!

[Sjnovot]

great!