Thanks Jenn! My biggest concern is that if I don't keep pushing for shoes there will be NO SHOES! We were doing their outfits as their gift but at this time I am thinking they will jsut get the dresses because I can't be bothered anymore! I totally agree not to sweat the small stuff but I know the one will be on me in January asking what we are doing for shoes.... *sigh*
Originally Posted by luvmoo
I feel your pain too Tori!!
We decided we are not covering our BM's shoes or dresses as i bought each of them a coach bag, barefoot jewelery and Hair flowers.. so we decided that they can get thier own shoes and dresses. I found a nice inexpensive (89.00) dress online and told them how to get it, that way they can get it on thier leisure and get the size they want etc.. as i have 3 BM's all different cities in which they live and all different shapes and sixzes, from petite to plus size. This was the best way to accomodate that was by doing it online. Well two of them got thier dresses and the third one just complains all of the time about the sizing of it and what not..
Same with the shoes... I was thinking that they could all get the matching shoes as they have matching dresses, however none of them could agree on ones they liked... i have one BM who is quite picky and a bit of a princess so to speak..( same one who is complaining about everything she can with the dresses.. and has yet to order hers..) so she couldnt agree on shoes..
To make a long story short, in the end i just gave up,, told them That i no longer care what shoes they wear.. and they can pick out thier own shoes. That way they will each get what they want and i don't have to be stressed about it.
I know it is frustrating Tori... and sometimes i wonder too why i chose to have 3 ladies in my wedding party haha... but at the same time i love them all and would not have it any other way.. i dont think... lol
Try not to sweat the small stuff.. and if it gets to the point of you wanting to snap, if it is not too important to you for them to be matching, maybe tell them they are on thier own and they can pick out there own shoes like i did.. I just decided to pick my battles.. and the shoes for me were not worth stressing over... ( this is just to me..) But if they are on thier own.. then they each get what they like...
You might want to give us more information... what resort, where... why you are decorating yourself?!
Originally Posted by can bride
How much time is allowd to decorate if we do our own?
Oh Laurelyn I am so so sorry to hear this... how frustrating... Maybe they will give you a 50% refund or something and you can get them altered?!
Originally Posted by Laurelyn
Just have to vent!!!! I was so excited a few days ago that the one of out of the four bridesmaid dresses had arrived from BEYOND THE RACK (Don't buy from this site!) and it had fit three of the girls perfectly and only had one more to try it on. Well I received the other three dresses today and thought hey I will try one on and take a couple pics for this site since some of the girls wanted to see. Well to my dismay the dress I put on was huge on me and I thought oh wow I'm so much smaller then my bm and then thought maybe I will try on the original dress that came first and well that one fit so much better. The JERKS covered up the Large size with medium stickers and cut the tag out of the dress on two of them!!!!!! Why would they think they could fool me when they are all coming to me!!!! Grrrrr so mad right now!!!!
HAHAHA too funny!!!
I was stressing out today and had to remind myself to keep calm....
There are so many last minute guests adding on. Its not that i mind that we will have more people or anything like that but its the fact that we are so close now and most of my planning is done for favors, OOT, my BUDGET, organized seating, the resort etc.....if it were two people SURE no problem but we are talking like 8 and counting...so many of the last minute deal shoppers. But the worst part is that we are finding this out through the TA and the guests arent even telling us so when we mention it to them they are telling us they thought it would be a "nice surprise"....i think some people dont get that you are still planning a wedding. Its not just a trip down south. I need to know these things! LOL oh well there is my rant....if i have all these extra people and not enough OOT or favors i will just politely apologize to these guests and move along with my trip and wedding! Keep calm and carry on!!!! LOL