I feel your pain too Tori!!
We decided we are not covering our BM's shoes or dresses as i bought each of them a coach bag, barefoot jewelery and Hair flowers.. so we decided that they can get thier own shoes and dresses. I found a nice inexpensive (89.00) dress online and told them how to get it, that way they can get it on thier leisure and get the size they want etc.. as i have 3 BM's all different cities in which they live and all different shapes and sixzes, from petite to plus size. This was the best way to accomodate that was by doing it online. Well two of them got thier dresses and the third one just complains all of the time about the sizing of it and what not..
Same with the shoes... I was thinking that they could all get the matching shoes as they have matching dresses, however none of them could agree on ones they liked... i have one BM who is quite picky and a bit of a princess so to speak..( same one who is complaining about everything she can with the dresses.. and has yet to order hers..) so she couldnt agree on shoes..
To make a long story short, in the end i just gave up,, told them That i no longer care what shoes they wear.. and they can pick out thier own shoes. That way they will each get what they want and i don't have to be stressed about it.
I know it is frustrating Tori... and sometimes i wonder too why i chose to have 3 ladies in my wedding party haha... but at the same time i love them all and would not have it any other way.. i dont think... lol
Try not to sweat the small stuff.. and if it gets to the point of you wanting to snap, if it is not too important to you for them to be matching, maybe tell them they are on thier own and they can pick out there own shoes like i did.. I just decided to pick my battles.. and the shoes for me were not worth stressing over... ( this is just to me..) But if they are on thier own.. then they each get what they like...
Originally Posted by torilynnsmith
Glad you ladies found the site helpful!!!! Unfortunately my girls didn't go for any of the shoes I liked.... I think I am giving up on them. A little bit of a vent but I am getting seriously frustrated! I asked them to find shoes they like and no one has done anything so I spent the better part of a day sending them different options and they don't really have an opinion except ones they DONT like.... I really dont care, I just want you to have shoes!!!!