Oh the RSVP frustration, rest assured you are not alone, and it is not just because it is a post card rsvp or a destination wedding. My best friend who got married in july got 1/3 of her RSVPs back. The rest of the people either emailed, called or told her in passing! HOW FRUSTRATING! You spend all this money on postage just for it to be wasted!
That being said, I would send an email or give a call to EVERYONE you haven't heard from or who hasn't made their deposit that HAS rsvpd. The reason I say this is because we sent our invites in May just before the postal strike hit, well this week I was talking to one of my good friends from university and she asked how the wedding planning was going. Now I am always very hesitant to ask people if they are coming since it is an expensive trip and I really don't want to put that pressure on people, well for some reason I asked "Are you and Jay going to be able to make it?" silence... "Well we dont have any of the details" SHE DIDNT GET HER INVITE!!!!!!!!
Why why why didn't I follow up with people!!!!!!!! This was past our group booking date, luckily our TA will still accept bookings just at the current rate (hasn't changed thankfully)
I would tell everyone to follow up with their guests, we have found out of 3 invites so far that haven't gotten delivered!!!! I was so upset, she thought she wasn't invited!!!!
We didn't make our RSVP date until November as we don't care if people book through our TA or independently but for our Feb wedding I would like to know in November so we can do place cards, confirm OOT bags etc. CALL our follow upw ith your guests, had we sent invites out way in advance and whatnot I probably would have sent a post card "reminder" letting people know that the RSVP date is approaching, this way if an invite didn't make it, they lost it, or forgot at least you are sharing a friendly "reminder" and a thank you for those guests who have RSVPd!
Sorry you are so frustrated, I can totally appreciate where you're coming from! Definitely check in with people!!!!
Originally Posted by Manda123
This is off topic but I'm a little peeved so I wanted to share...
We sent out our formal invites in July with a RSVP date of Sept 24 (our deadline for deposits is Oct1 - wanted the week cushion to make sure I could touch base with people who RSVPd yes and who haven't put down a deposit). Our invites our passport invites with a boarding pass postcard RSVP, so I suppose it is a little untraditional, but it is still an RSVP with a stamp, which would make one believe that it needs to be returned!
I was talking with a girlfriend yesterday who I assumed wasn't coming, but I invited her anyway because she would have come if it were at home. She said that she didn't think she had to RSVP to me, she figured if she just didn't book with the TA then it would be obvious that she wasn't coming. At this point, we have only received about 1/3 of our RSVPs in the mail. I know lots of people - including myself - often wait until the last minute to send those bacl, but now I am wondering if people know they are supposed to send them?! My mom said my aunt thought that the postcard was part of the "decoration" of the card. WTF?! There is a stamp for god's sake!
Anyone else experience something like this? I was going to reach out to the people I hadn't heard from after the RSVP date, but now I'm wondering if I should even bother...