I can relate to what you are saying. My mom passed away almost 4 years ago and although I will still get to do the Father/Daughter dance, planning my wedding and doing all the stuff you would normally do with your mom without her has been extremely tough. I get excited about wedding stuff then turn around and shed a few tears...lol...Good thing my Fiance understands, he lost his dad 16 years ago.
So regarding tributes, I thought I would share with you our ideas. I think Tori's friend's idea is very touching. I also had a friend recently get married and she had lost both of her parents. What they did is they had photos in nice frames on a table in front at the ceremony and reception, with a candle lit in front of each(votive). Then when it was time for a toast, they put a glass of champagne by each photo. We are planning on doing the photo idea at our ceremony. I have also seen others put a nice poem in a frame by the photos.
For speeches, I think we are both going to say a word of how his dad and my mom would have loved each of us...more of a funny tribute...with a few tears I am sure. I.e. My mom would have loved him as he is a clean freak like her.....
I am also going to carry a photo of my mom in a small frame tied to my bouquet...so she is with me:)
Anyhow, there are a few ideas. Did your dad like any funny or crazy songs? If you are comfortable playing one, you could all get up and dance like crazy in honour of him!!
Originally Posted by Camy47
We still haven't finalized our details yet...but I know we will be using "Heaven" by Bryan Adams for our first dance (we used to love dancing to the DJ Sammy version when we first met)
I'm actually dreading the Father/Daughter dance as my Dad passed away 4.5 years ago and it's going to be very hard making it through this day without him.
However, I think I may use this opportunity to pay a small tribute to him. I was thinking that when it's time for this dance I would call all of his friends who are attending up to the dance floor (his best friend and several of my parents close friends will be there). Then after making a little speech I'd have the DJ crank up 'Before He Cheats' by Carrie Underwood. My Dad liked this song and I think it's some good fatherly advice for the FI haha! I would do this as the lead in to the 'dance' portion of the evening.
I've only told the FI this idea, so I'd love to hear what you ladies think?!