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#1 meBonidie2be

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    Posted 18 July 2011 - 02:47 PM

    I am having a really hard time deciding how much to include my parents (who have separated and now each have a sig. other)  in the wedding ceremony as well as announcing names at the AHR. My FI parents passed away long before we met and he doesn't talk about it that much. He isn't over sensitive, but i don't want to have announcements about my family and not his.....

    ahhhhhh.....please help!



    #2 anna524

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      Posted 18 July 2011 - 10:32 PM

      I went to a wedding and a close friend/relative made a toast about the deceased parent and how much they would have loved to been there on this special day and how proud they would have been of their daughter. you could do something like that. i hope you are able to figure something out



      #3 Sharon99

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        Posted 19 July 2011 - 07:17 AM

        Such a shame...I know there are a few threads on here about this. I remember reading about people doing memory frames. It sounded nice. Sorry I dont remember the thread but try to do a search at the top about this topic and I am sure there are some great ideas.

         



        #4 anichols8

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          Posted 19 July 2011 - 07:51 AM

          I have seen so many different ways to recognize deceased parents and loved ones in a subtle way; from a rose in empty chairs, to frames, to candles, to toasts.

           

          As far as your separated parents, I have seen this done several ways too and it depends on how close you are to your parents significant others.  I have seen both sets of parents walk down the isle, I have seen both men walk the bride down the isle; I've seen one stepfather walk the bride half way and "hand off" the bride to her father to take her the rest of the way, there are soo many different ways to do that as well.

           

          Good luck!



          #5 meBonidie2be

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            Posted 19 July 2011 - 11:34 AM

            Thanks for your responses ladies. I am actually having both my dads walk me down the aisle in Jamaica. I havent decided if it should be half way or both the whole way. I don't think i will decide until we know how wide it will be. I guess i will do whatever seems less awkward.

             

            What do you think?

             

            As far as recognizing those that have passed, my FI and I discussed having a table with candles, flowers and pictures. However, that was for the AHR. Do you guys think we should do something along the same lines for DW?

             

            On the DJ questionaire it asks names of parents and all that for him to announce. I feel like I shouldn't have MOB or FOB announced. Would/should they recognize his deceased parents?



            #6 JayKay

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            Posted 19 July 2011 - 07:27 PM

            I love the idea of having both your dads walk you down the aisle.  I think you could get one to walk you halfway and the other to walk the other halfway or have them both walk you the whole way then they can both give you away. 


             

            As to decesed parents, my FI father passed away when he was mcuh younger and his stepdad basically raised him but he still wants to do something to remember him.  I think we are going to have an empty chair with a rose on it in honor of his father.

            Originally Posted by meBonidie2be 

            Thanks for your responses ladies. I am actually having both my dads walk me down the aisle in Jamaica. I havent decided if it should be half way or both the whole way. I don't think i will decide until we know how wide it will be. I guess i will do whatever seems less awkward.

             

            What do you think?

             

            As far as recognizing those that have passed, my FI and I discussed having a table with candles, flowers and pictures. However, that was for the AHR. Do you guys think we should do something along the same lines for DW?

             

            On the DJ questionaire it asks names of parents and all that for him to announce. I feel like I shouldn't have MOB or FOB announced. Would/should they recognize his deceased parents?



             



            #7 meBonidie2be

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              Posted 20 July 2011 - 05:56 AM

              Thanks JayKay I have so many ppl that don't understand why i would have both dads walk me down the aisle. Someppl just think it will be awkward. My dad is totally cool with it and my stepdad cried when i asked him.



              #8 JayKay

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              Posted 20 July 2011 - 03:03 PM

              I totally understand, they are both your dads!!

               

              Originally Posted by meBonidie2be 

              Thanks JayKay I have so many ppl that don't understand why i would have both dads walk me down the aisle. Someppl just think it will be awkward. My dad is totally cool with it and my stepdad cried when i asked him.



               



              #9 jlarruda

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                Posted 20 July 2011 - 03:21 PM

                I think reserving a chair with a flower on it for the ceremony goes great lengths.



                #10 meBonidie2be

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                  Posted 21 July 2011 - 06:04 AM

                  I really like the idea. My FI said it is weird and he had never heard of it even at all the weddings we has been to. I thought he prob just didnt notice. Any other suggestions from anyone on how to represent those passed away?






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