I wanted to talk to my fellow brides because I am torn, what to do???
I have a small wedding party, my MOH and two other bridesmaids. My friend of 12 years that I selected as my MOH was on board with the planning at first, now things have taken a big turn.
I am getting married in about 2 mos and we spoke ONLY ONCE about my bridal shower, she never asked for my names/addresses or anything since then.
she doesn't have her passport for her trip and all she did was put down a deposit back in the fall, she lost her job and has been on two trips and planned a graduation party just last week.
when she originally booked she didn't have a roomate so she just gave her sister's name to get the double occ. rate at the travel agent. she now wants to bring her new boy toy as her roomate, BUT HAS NOT ADDED HIM AND FINAL PAYMENTS ARE DUE IN A WEEK! (sidenote: a maid of honor who brings a new man to a wedding she will be running around for... hmmmm )
last week I buried a close friend of mine and instead of asking how I was doing, she asked if 2 days after the funeral If I could supply music and equipment for her graduation party. (yeah like I would be in the mood to help you throw a party when u forgot to plan mine)
a few days ago I injured my neck and asked for a contact number to see a doctor that she referred me to. afterwards I found the number but did she even call to check on me.....NOPE.
We had a talk a few months back and I told her that she was dropping the ball, I need help, and I need someone to help keep me on my toes. not sit around and wonder if your gonna cancel because of finances and poor planning. I respect her life and what she has going, but if you agree to be in a wedding, I think you should make time just a lil time for the wedding party. It's like she just landed a new man and turned her back on everyone (unless she wants something)
She has flaked in the past and we used to have a great friendship, I don't know if this one will last. I am VERY turned off by her behavior and am questioning if I want that type of energy around me on my wedding day.
On the good side, my other bridesmaid has really stepped up and our friendship is stronger than ever, If I knew we would have become this close she would have been my MOH from the start.
I don't know BDW I am on the fence, I don't wanna turn away someone who wants to be with me on my wedding day, but i don't wanna be around someone that I could end up resenting. I am really having a hard time forgiving her especially when she doesn't think she did anything wrong. SMH
What to do: