I am a Concierge for a 5-star hotel and after years of working many high-end weddings, I KNEW when it was my time to get married, I didn't want the big 'to do.' Too many weekends, I've seen so many stressed out families (yes, more so the families over the bride even), 100s of guests that the bride/groom probably haven't spoken to in awhile, and overall just the sense of it being more a production than a true celebration of love, life, family & friends. Granted, I think I see an extreme, and I'm sure as I get closer to the date there will be different stressors as well, but I wanted to minimize it by doing a DW.
My FI and I love to travel, esp. to beaches, and are very laid back - so I don't think many of our friends/fam were surprised when we decided to go the DW route. Also, his family is from Kansas, mine from Texas so either way - SOMEONE's side would be getting on a plane, so we figured, why not fly to paradise?!
Inevitably, some of our closest friends/fam won't be able to go, but it's what we want to do, so whether we have 10 or 100 ppl there, I have no doubt it'll be the best day!! Plus, I have YET to hear of one DW bride that regretted it!