MAID OF HONOR DRAMA

[Chitown Bride]

Hey all. My sister has been acting like a real b!tch lately and she just so happens to be the MOH. It all started when I told her what my colors were for the wedding. I told her I wanted all the bridesmaids to wear silver shoes. She wants to wear her own shoes that ARE NOT silver. When I told her I didn't want her to wear those shoes, she immediately became distant and had a bad attitude. When her birthday came around she stopped talking to me all together because I arrived an hour late to her event. She was angry the whole night and wouldn't even speak to me. This was April 23rd. It is now May 20th and I have not heard from her. I called her and of course she didn't answer so I left a message to call me. She instead texted me a nasty little message but I didn't reply. We leave for Cabo Mexico in 3 months and I dont know how long she plans on ranting and raving like this. She is taking this way too far and I don't know what to do about her. How should I handle this????

[Amara3CUS]

Ugh, how terrible I'm in a similar situation with my matron of honor (sister) who is now refusing to be a part of the wedding because of her opinions about my DH. I don't know what to tell you but I know the pain :'(

Originally Posted by Chitown Bride 

Hey all. My sister has been acting like a real b!tch lately and she just so happens to be the MOH. It all started when I told her what my colors were for the wedding. I told her I wanted all the bridesmaids to wear silver shoes. She wants to wear her own shoes that ARE NOT silver. When I told her I didn't want her to wear those shoes, she immediately became distant and had a bad attitude. When her birthday came around she stopped talking to me all together because I arrived an hour late to her event. She was angry the whole night and wouldn't even speak to me. This was April 23rd. It is now May 20th and I have not heard from her. I called her and of course she didn't answer so I left a message to call me. She instead texted me a nasty little message but I didn't reply. We leave for Cabo Mexico in 3 months and I dont know how long she plans on ranting and raving like this. She is taking this way too far and I don't know what to do about her. How should I handle this????

 

[mexicobride422]

Chitown bride I'm sorry to hear about your situation.. You must already be feeling so stressed out over the wedding being just three months away and trying to get everything done.. On top of all that now dealing with this falling out with your sister is probably driving you crazy:(

 

I wish I had some good advice for you.. How was your relationship before the whole silver shoes thing happened? Because it seems so silly to start a fight over a pair of shoes and I don't get why she would purposely go against your wishes..

 

Sometimes its not so much the things we fight over but what happens after the fight.. I know me and my sister are both so stubborn and we hate making the first move first.. But I can't imagine not speaking to her for more than a few days..

 

You are right to be upset and angry because this has gone on for far too long.. If it were me I would try and be the bigger person and call her and say " Look.. This has gone on far too long and I am making an effort to make it right.. I can't imagine getting married and you not being fully supportive of me on that day.. And being supportive means being there.. looking happy.. and wearing whatever I want you to.. LOL.. "

 

I hope it works out.. keep us posted!

 

 

[Katiem2012]

Ugh that situation sucks! I feel your pain, my MOH is my sister as well and she's had a problem with my FI since we started dating and keeps picking fights with me over stupid small stuff! The only advice I can give you is to try to be the bigger person and get in touch with her. It sounds like she's being very immature about the situation. It's you're wedding, one day and you're asking her to be supportive and look happy for that one day... and just to do what you want for that one day... in the big scheme of things one day isn't much and she needs to grow up and accept that... Trust me I know it's easier said than done... I'm struggling with the same thing. Hopefully she realizes that it's your day, not hers and as your MOH and sister that she needs to respect that...

[JQLong]

Chitown Bride...I think I agree with Katiem2012...I would try to talk with her...just you and her.  Let her know that it is important to you that she is involved with the planning but it is YOUR wedding.  Maybe plan a lunch or get pedicures and let her know how you feel.  This wedding planning stuff is CRAZY...everyone involved gets emotional.  Remember she is your sister....and will still be AFTER the wedding.  Good Luck!

[bmadzia1]

I would try and reach out.. it is your sister, so it's worth being the bigger person. If things don't improve, I would ask if she is still up to the honour of being your MOH.  The ball is in her court then and ask to give you an answer as you need to find a 'witness'. I know it sounds very harsh and rather rude, but what is a bride to do ?

[AfricanVenus]

I agree with the other ladies. I don't know if you're a prayerful person, but pray first and ask God that He prepare you for the convo in terms of your attitude and tone, that you come with a spirit of reconciliation. Then, make the effort to calmly and tactfully express that you'd love her to be there, and ask what has gotten her so upset. Have an honest discourse and get to the bottom of it, because it'll only reemerge at an inconvenient time (i.e. your wedding!). So just hash it out and ask her if she'd still like to represent you. Praying for you cuz it's not fun to fight so harshly with a love one...

[kymish]

i agree totally with katiem2012....hopefully ur sister realizes it is your big day and comes around she may regret missing your wedding day later on in life
 

Originally Posted by Katiem2012 

Ugh that situation sucks! I feel your pain, my MOH is my sister as well and she's had a problem with my FI since we started dating and keeps picking fights with me over stupid small stuff! The only advice I can give you is to try to be the bigger person and get in touch with her. It sounds like she's being very immature about the situation. It's you're wedding, one day and you're asking her to be supportive and look happy for that one day... and just to do what you want for that one day... in the big scheme of things one day isn't much and she needs to grow up and accept that... Trust me I know it's easier said than done... I'm struggling with the same thing. Hopefully she realizes that it's your day, not hers and as your MOH and sister that she needs to respect that...