I'm so sorry to hear many other brides are having the same struggles I am My so called "friends" have completely betrayed me since I got engaged, and my best friend turned into a jealous psycho after I got engaged, scoffing at every dress, color, or idea I looked at, yet she was so eager to leak the news of my FI proposal to me before he did it! I have since lost all but a select few of my girlfriends due to all this drama, and things just keep getting worse. I chose not to have a MOH at all. My brother can't come, and my Father hasn't been around since I was little, and My Mother has even asked how I would feel if she didn't come??! "Hmmm, let me see, I don't know Mom, DEVESTATED is the word that comes to mind!" Turns out, our wedding has brought the real opinions people have of me and my FI and our kids. Ouch.
However, my FMIL and I had lunch today, and she said something that stuck with me. Maybe it'll help you as much as it has helped me-she said "Nobody is going to be happy about your wedding but you" and she's right, I am not sure what I expected from my BM, or my Mother, but really, I will only be disappointed if I expect anyone to be as happy about OUR wedding as we are, it's ours, not theirs, and the people who should be happy is me and my FI and our kids, and that is who I am going to focus on, that's it!
Weddings really bring out the best or worst of people.