Let me start by saying that I feel like brides on here, whom I have never met in my life, and probably won't, help me way more than my wedding party (which is a complete disaster). I don't know what to do. We are about 6 months out from our wedding date, and my wedding party is just so uncooperative.
My MOH has NO idea what is going on with our wedding. Her and I grew up together, and we always talked about us getting married and being each others MOH. Yet, now that my time has come, she is no where to be found. She was there for my engagement and so happy for me, but it seems like her life is too complicated right now for her to even care about slight details in my wedding. I am NOT trying to be a bridezilla. Actually, I feel pretty calm about the wedding and details to date, BUT I do feel like she should be there for me more. I mean, aren't MOH suppose to be there to help pick out the dress, and invites, and places, and decor, and colors, and and and? My mom has been there for me this whole time luckily, but its not the same as a BFF.
What stinks is, in the beginning, I wanted my other friend to be in my wedding. I actually wanted her to be the MOH, but I couldn't do that to my childhood friend, so I just asked her to be a BM. She was understanding. Since that moment, her life has turned completely upside down. We went from planning our weddings together and talking wedding daily to her breaking up with her fiance and partying AT LEAST 4 nights a week. She has pretty much cut me from the cliche because I am the only one in a relationship. Any time I even bring up the wedding, she changes the subject. What is making me upset is, I stopped talking to her about the wedding out of respect/courtesy, and she questioned me. I told her plans were still the same regardless of her situation with her relationship. She was relieved. My mistake was, I thought that was the awkward conversation about weddings and I could carry on my wedding convo's, just not as often. I was wrong. Now, I don't know what to do. A girl I barely even know is a BM at this moment.
To top it off, the best man FORGOT he was asked to be the best man. AND the groomsman hasn't booked a room or flight or anything yet, and the deadline for booking under the group rate was over a month ago. The resort we picked does sell out! I am so nervous that he won't be able to book a room when he is ready/if he is ever ready.
I feel like my wedding party is so out of control and we only asked 4 people! For pete's sake, I thought they would be the easy part. In the beginning my fiance and I were so sure about these 4 people, now we are second guessing ALL of them. IMO its rediculous. These friends (and family) should be there for us now, more than ever. I would THINK they would want this to be the happiest day of our lives, and would want to contribute. Right now, I think we picked the wrong people. The only person I feel like I can count on is my future husband. I wish my friends were more supportive....or just friends at that. Sigh. Unfortunately, sitting down and talking our feelings out with these people has not worked. They put effort in for about a day then continue on as if we never told them we were hurt. Any suggestions?