Is it tacky??

[katman]

love the idea of making the AHR as much like the DW as possible....make those who couldn't make it feel especially welcome

[Jamielynn55]

I am totally wearing my dress again! <3 And my bridesmaids + all the guys too! i love this idea- wooo hooo for non-traditional (boring) weddings!   im also thinking i want another wedding cake too lol!! heres a question fior you ladies- for the AHR is it rude of me to register for gifts and put a registry card in with the invitation, i just want my guest to have an alternative to giving cash? im not having a bridal shower but we are doing a large AHR with favors and everything

[acireta]

I think it might be considered rude to include registry info on any invitation, AHR included. Put it on your website and let it spread by word of mouth. People will find it :-)

I am totally wearing my dress again! <3 And my bridesmaids + all the guys too! i love this idea- wooo hooo for non-traditional (boring) weddings!   im also thinking i want another wedding cake too lol!! heres a question fior you ladies- for the AHR is it rude of me to register for gifts and put a registry card in with the invitation, i just want my guest to have an alternative to giving cash? im not having a bridal shower but we are doing a large AHR with favors and everything

We did a big cocktail party for our AHR- cupcakes, open bar, buffet food, toasts, etc. My husband and I wore our wedding clothes and our groomsmen wore their shirts with their own suits (they wore khakis for the wedding). I am so glad I wore my dress, it was my last chance to enjoy it!

[katman]

Originally Posted by Jamielynn55 

 

heres a question fior you ladies- for the AHR is it rude of me to register for gifts and put a registry card in with the invitation, i just want my guest to have an alternative to giving cash? im not having a bridal shower but we are doing a large AHR with favors and everything

 

 

I've been wondering about this as well Jamielynn

...I know we are not expecting gifts, as those who are attending the DW will already be spending a lot to be part of our special day, but that does kind of leave those who are not attending the DW in an awkward position. I am not sure how I feel about putting a registry card in with the invitation, as that could be misinterpreted by some guests (especially those who will be present for the actual wedding), but I feel that many people will insist on doing gifts and may ask for registry information. So I think a registry is a great idea, just not sure how to present that information...wait until guests request it/use word of mouth, or make an official announcement. Hmm... Any past brides have words of advice?

[shes2013]

I'm glad I came across the thread. I was worried about people judging on that too. You know what though, I said the hell with that. I'm doing what I want & celebrating how I choose. If people think its tacky, plain & simple don't come!

[LAtravelgirl]

I wouldn't expect gifts from anyone not invited to the actual wedding. There has been a lot of shoo-shooing of etiquette mentioned, but no one would argue eating with your mouth open or other rules of etiquette are just opinions. As far as what can be worn, I have never heard of any hard fast rules on this, but I also haven't spent much time on other blogs. As far as putting registry cards in with the invite, I agree there are other ways to get the word out of where you are registered.

[kmmathes]

Good thread! I was wondering about how to delicately deal with the guests who didn't attend the DW (but were invited) and want to bring a gift to the AHR. We would be happy with cash! (or costco gift cards)

[DiggityDawn]

This has been a helpful thread, thank you ladies.
 

[TinkerSofi]

Ettiquete is very subjective. Sure, some things you can't get away with, but DW are so new that what is the ettiquete anyways? Do what makes you happy . I'm planning on wearing my dress as many times as I can! I'm having a small party at my house when we come back so I'll probably wear it then, and I'm having a reception in Argentina for my family that can't make it to Mexico so I'll wear the same dress again hahah.  Those things are too darn expensive to wear only once so to hell with that rule! Another tradition we're breaking is our bridal party, I'm having a maid of honor (my best friend) and a "man of honor" (my brother) while my fiance is having his two sisters by his side with no groomsmen. Sometimes these "rules" are meant to be broken. I think as long as you're not offending anyone you're good. I remember back for grad (I live in Canada so no proms here) everyone changed to jeans to go to the after party. I conformed and did the same as my friends and I always regretted it. My dress was beautiful, and expensive too, and I only wore it for like 2 hours. I'm never making that same mistake again, so my wedding dress will be worn until I squeeze all the juice out of it hahah. I'm not pretending to be the queen of England. I'm just having fun and doing what makes me happy, tacky or not. 

 

Some people are just so judgemental about weddings and they forget that you could have easily left them off your guest list and saved the money. They should be happy for you and happy to be sharing such a special day with you. 

[Romantic room]

Hi girls,

 

I agree on this one, is not tacky at all.  Not everybody can go to the destination wedding. AHR gives the opportunity for the ones that were not able to be there to celebrate with you and enjoy a magical night.

 

Do not listen to the ones that think that is wrong or tacky, you are the one celebrating not them!