Yes! As soon as we got engaged I got not one, but two requests - one from my niece who is currently like, into the whole drinking (and probably drugs) scene and we're not close at ALL.. but she straight out asked me.. I think I told her that I was hoping she would be able to handle ____... I made up something that I won't be distressed about if she doesn't show/messes it up. She even made a point to say that for her upcomig wedding (to a druggie bf who isnt even around anymore) that she wanted me to be her MOH.. I again had to find a way to tactfully turn that down.. sorry if I sound like a horrible person but seriously we're not close at all, not since she was maybe 4 years old? And she's got lots of friends and other relatives she's closer to.
Then a friend of mine who we used to be best friends all while growing up as kids.. then we did the whole club scene and stuff for about a year, every other weekend going out dancing, and then I grew out of it.. graduated University, got into a great career, found a guy I've now been with for almost 7 years.. but she is still doing the club thing, getting old for it in my opinion, the only times over the years when we've been close is when she's been pregnant with one of her three kids, those are the only times she's sober really, then after the kid is born she goes on about how sober life is great and how she's going to stick with it this time.. but nope.. and she cheated on the father of her kids, hangs out with the weirdest people, I mean.. I dunno.. I felt like she never grew up? Anyway, she told me she wanted to be MOH. I was like oh I'm not even sure who's in the wedding party yet.. which I wasn't.. but when I made up my mind on who was in the wedding party, I told everyone. I have a MOH, fiancee has his Best Man, and then theres 3 bridesmaids and a Jr bridesmaid, and 2 groomsmen and a jr groomsman. And I did list her as a bridesmaid, and she was super excited to hear about my DW.. but hasn't put down her deposit yet or anything because she's too busy partying....... sooooo.... the wedding party might end up being evened out after all.. and if she's going to be like this.. I am afraid to think what she will be like when we're there