Hello, my name is Dan, looks like my sex is in the minority here but here goes. I searched a lot here but haven't found a lot of the info I need.
My fiancee and I are planning a wedding in 2012, probably June. We don't have a lot of extra cash, and we just had a baby girl (yeah, I know, we're doing this in the wrong order) so it feels like any spare cash should go to caring for our daughter. So I had what I thought was the brilliant idea of having a destination wedding at an all-inclusive resort. We have a lot of friends and family, and I expect a lot would travel to our wedding. Open to location, but lots of us are in Colorado so the closer locations are better (for ex., Cancun and surrounding area is very easy to get to).
But even though all of these resorts would be reaping the benefit of 80-100 people coming to the resort for our wedding and all of these people would all be paying a lot for included food and beverage, it seems the resorts want to charge us an arm and a leg to bring them all. Making it as expensive or more expensive than local weddings.
We're not that picky about details, we just want a simple ceremony and a private dinner reception. That's it. But the few resorts I have seen that advertise "free weddings" only offer that for small numbers of guests, and want to charge $50-60/per person after that. Which not only seems crazy, but we simply can't afford it. I totally understand paying something for them to set up a separate area and serve us separately, but if I'm bringing tens of thousands in dollars of business to them, it seems like it should cost a little less.
Are there resorts that I'm missing? Places I should check out for a fairly budget all-inclusive wedding? Any help would be appreciated, because this has me bummed out right now.