This is going to suck hard to read.
My former FI and I were supposed to be married this summer (2011) at my parent's oceanfront house in British Columbia. Up until two weeks ago, we were searching for houses. He couldn't afford a downpayment on the house, so I was going to have to pay the entire 20% (please keep in mind house prices in British Columbia are ridiculously high). Basically, he did not want to have only my name on the title of the house, regardless of who payed the downpayment. I cannot hand over half my money, even with love, trust, blah blah blah, it is is not going to happen.
So he told me on email while I was at work, "it's over, and I am moving out."
You're all getting married and happy, so I assume you understand the devastation I felt. I did not go home after work. I drove the three hours to my parent's house and let myself fall into their arms.
Apparently, he did not think I would take him seriously. He never wanted to break up, and was horrified to hear I canceled all the confirmations I had made with wedding vendors. Maybe it's just me, but when someone you're about to marry says "it's over," I kind of get the impression the wedding isn't going to happen.....I told him not to be at home when I get back. So he rented some crappy apartment. So he was upset to hear I took him seriously, he tells me repeatedly over the next week how sorry he is, how he can't imagine life without me, how I'm the best thing that ever happened to him, basically everything you'd expect to hear from someone groveling to you. It was my birthday the following week, too, so he bought me diamonds, and flooded my home with roses and assorted flowers.
We are taking a month off from talking to each other or emailing each other.
I'm not sure how I feel. I'm angry and hurt that he put me and my family through this. I'm embarrassed my fiance left me 3 months before our wedding. I'm sad, because I hate and miss and love him. I'm very confused. We had problems before he "left," because he is a slob and never cleans up after himself.....I still love him. But I feel like if I gave him another chance, people would think I was some pathetic girl. I feel like I'd be letting people down if I gave him another chance.
What would you guys do?