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#1 skp1

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    Posted 15 March 2011 - 05:44 AM

    Our wedding party is going to be family members only.  MY sister is my MOH and originally my fiance's 2 sons were going to be joint best men.  That's totally reasonable since you don't want to chose one over the other and hurt any feelings.  But then my fiance decided to have his brother be his best man so I assumed his sons were groomsmen.  Well, I was working on making program fans and had them listed that way and my fiance said I should change it because his sons think they are all 3 best men.  I know destination weddings don't have rules and you can do whatever you want.  We are having an uneven wedding party which I am fine with.  If I wasn't making programs I would care what they called themselves, but it just seems odd to have them all listed as best men.  Should I go along with it?  I guess in the scheme of things its not a big deal but just wanted some feedback.  By the way, the sons are 20 and 25.

    Steph & John........Atlantis.......June 18, 2011......happily married

    #2 X-Chan

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      Posted 15 March 2011 - 08:03 AM

      I'd go with it. :) Rules Schmules.

      #3 KCB2011

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        Posted 15 March 2011 - 09:00 AM

        I'd go with it too.  We are having 3 BM and 3 GM and we are not distinguishing so we technically have 3 bridesmaids/maids of honour and 3 groomsmen/best men.  I think on our programs we are listing them all as bridesmaids and groomsmen so that is also an option.  I don't think anyone will think it is weird to have them all listed as best men either!

        #4 JayKay

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        Posted 15 March 2011 - 04:54 PM

        I'd go with it too.  We are each having two people stand up for us, and we are calling both my girls MOHs and his boys best men! You can really do whatever you want to!

        #5 mochamakes3

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          Posted 15 March 2011 - 05:02 PM

          I just listed everyone under bridal party. We have 2 BM, 3 GM and a ring bearer. I even considered listing my honourable BM that won't be able to attend due to her pregnancy. Do whatever makes you happy.

          #6 mandys

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            Posted 26 March 2011 - 10:21 AM

            Nothing wrong with 3 best men!! It's your wedding and you can design it to be whatever you like. My fiancee doesnt want to choose just one person for his best man. He might not even have a best man. They will just all be his best men.

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            #7 DramaticAnnie

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              Posted 22 April 2011 - 12:39 PM

              Yeah I would list them as Best Men, why not?

              And to the poster above, I would totally include the honorary MOH.


              (My honorary MOH is my doggie who won't be able to attend, lol, but I put her on the wedding newsletter/facebook thingy I am doing up along with plenty of photos of her :D)

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              #8 Avelyad

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                Posted 24 April 2011 - 05:43 PM

                Id list them all as the best men!

                #9 skp1

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                  Posted 25 April 2011 - 05:29 AM

                  Turns out this isn't an issue anymore.  About a week later at dinner one night his son was like "I'm a groomsmen, I don't want the responsibility of best man."  I think it was just my fiance that cared, not the kids.

                  Steph & John........Atlantis.......June 18, 2011......happily married

                  #10 LisaMatterni

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                    Posted 25 April 2011 - 07:32 PM

                    Sure you can go along with it. It's just like having 2 MOH also. Just what like on the other thread's problem. 

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