14 replies to this topic

[mandys]

I would just like your thoughts on a money shower. Me and my fiancee are moving in together about 9 months before our wedding, so we will have most of the stuff that we need. I just dont think its fair, that I have gone to dozens of showers, and then not have one myself?? A money shower would make most sense for us. What do you all think?

[BeachBridein11]

I strongly suggest NOT to have a money shower.  Asking for money is always in poor taste.  Sorry...

[mandys]

Thanks for your thoughts - I appreciate it.....the only reason I have considered it is because I have been to a money shower myself. I have thought of just not throwing anything but I keep getting invited to showers, stag and does etc. and have spent so much on people. I am torn.

[soon2bmrspierce]

My fiance' and i live together already in a house and pretty much have everything.I think you should def still have a shower,it's always nice to get new stuff.You could always put the stuff away and break it out at later date.I've never been to a money shower.Maybe give people the option, 

[katieandaron]

Could you have a something else kind of shower?  A wine shower?  A stock-our-liquor cabinet shower?  A lingerie shower? 

 

On the other hand, I think you could come up with stuff you want- new linens, seasonal items (holiday platters, etc.), tupperware...

 

I agree with the previous poster- I think a "money shower" is a bad idea.

[mandys]

Ok. Looks like its a bad idea.....Either I will find items to put on the registry (you are right, you can always use new things) or I just wont do anything at all.  I wasnt going to have a shower at all until some of my family told me I should. 

[deannamarie85]

Originally Posted by mandys 

Ok. Looks like its a bad idea.....Either I will find items to put on the registry (you are right, you can always use new things) or I just wont do anything at all.  I wasnt going to have a shower at all until some of my family told me I should. 

I just think it implies that you only want money from guests, which can seem a little harsh. If you have a bridal shower then guests can choose to either buy you a gift or money.

[CanadianLindsey]

Showers are always such a touchy subject...although I have been to and hosted a lot of them, I still don't like the underlying notion of having a party just to get gifts.  Some traditions should be left in the past! Lol!

[mandys]

CanadianLindsey, I totally agree with you. I am not personally a big fan of the whole shower idea especially if you dont particularly need the help. If it were up to me I wouldnt have one. If I do have one though, I will definitely choose gifts on a registry. Thanks for all your thoughts and opinions!

[snanderson]

Or maybe you could have a shower and include a "cute" little note that kindly explains your situation (i.e. that you are already in an established household) and suggest "if a gift is a must, we prefer gift cards or financial donations to help us with our new union."..just an idea! Not sure if the wording makes sense, was trying to recap what I have recently read on a wedding invitation and it was worded in good taste. Again...just an idea!