Originally Posted by jennMc
..my FI and I had made a decision that we would pick our wedding party after everyone had put down their deposits as we didn't want to put any ADDED pressure on anyone BUT of course you already know who you want to ask and assume they would make the trip with you but that just doesn't seem to be the case.......
As our deposit date is less then two weeks away. my FI who 100% thought his cousin would be coming (potential groomsman) now all of sudden can't afford it (money is never an issue with this guy until now) so he's out, he's oldest friend (potential best man) who from day one has said NO PROBLEM I'm there all of a sudden isn't responding to any of my FI's reminder text messages and I can see that it's bothering him...
So last night my FI's says to me you might want to hold back on the numbers your thinking for bridesmaids because so and so aren't coming...etc...and now I'm feeling all lost and sad...two of my potential bridemaids have already put down their deposits and I already know my other girlfriend is coming 100% but now we are waiting on his side when we first decided to this DW his side was ALL IN and now this...such a piss off!!!
I don't think people realize how disappointing it is when you said I'm THERE - ie. my Aunt "I'm there..I don't even have to think twice about it" to last week saying "sorry but I can't afford it"....like DON'T SAY anything at all - I have now learned if I EVER get invited to a DW (minus if it's one of my BF's) I'm just going to say I need to THINK ABOUT IT...
You know my FI says to me last night I don't care who comes - as long as our family is there and you and I are happy then that's all the matters which is 100% true I just don't like this useless disappointment we have to feel in the meantime
I can't wait until June 7th has passed...we'll finally know whose coming
Thats a smart idea! wish we did that for the grooms men! My bridesmaids all said they were coming, and they all put their deposits down As for HIs guys. Only one has(the best man) the other 2 nothing yet. Im gonna tell him to tell them he has to know by a certain date, because then he doesnt have anyone and would have to ask someone who is going ( which he is thinking about doing now ne ways, and then maybe m y brother)
Our due date is May 31 for deposits to be in but we kinda got everyone to do it by last week because our TA is gone this week and wouldnt be there to take the depostis.. right now the total amt confirmed on the group rate including us is about 22. But we have ppl coming from the usa and england and jamaica too so we are expecting about 40 ppl
I agree with your FI I say that to mine all the time. It sucks my grandma isnt coming or my other grandparents, but my grandpas is 93 and my grandma on my moms side doesnt leave canada lol So thats shitty but Im doing lots with her to include her
I wish i could say May 31 Ill know the exact number but I wont until end of August. I am going to put a deadline on when to tell me if you are coming or not ( for the ppl making their own arrangments) because I need to know for the resort and for gifts and OOT bags and stuff like that and if you tell me last min your coming, thats great,, but NO GIFT FOR YOU