jaykay - I like your method best. my FI and I were just going over the list of people who we've sent STDs to and there are some we're just not in contact with any longer and who have been AWOL (mainly his band friends post-the band splitting up). last night, he said, "I don't even really know them." and I agreed. I'm sure that happens a lot in weddings, but we're assembling the people in the world who are closest to us in Mexico, and seems like it would be a bit odd to have other people there, too. I've always had a, 'the more the merrier' attitude, and if these people did want to come, that's totally ok with me. but I think if you receive even a STD (we included our wedding website which has an informal RSVP) and we haven't seen you in some time, it's only polite to get in touch and say you're coming.
all in all, I'm with jaykay, I think family and the people we've discussed the trip in detail with (even if they're on the fence) deserve an invite. for the others we've lost contact with, I don't know if I'll go through the time and expense to send them one.
Originally Posted by JayKay
We sent out STDs and then about a month later we sent out an information card that included price of the place, exact dates, and that RSVPs could be done through our wedding website. We found that most people just let us know either through facebook, or text, or email that they were coming. We are only sending out invites to people who have said they are coming. I think with a destination wedding there is no right way to do it!