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Just wondering what others have done....since you most likely know who is attending because they have booked their trip or told you they can't go, do you still send a stamped RSVP card with your invitation?  And do you send an invitation to everyone even if they told you 'no' already?  Thanks for your input!!!

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We only sent invites to those who confirmed attendance and we did not include a RSVP.  We asked for RSVP's on the save the dates and mentioned on the STD's that only those who confirmed will receive a formal invitation. I have no idea if that's the "proper" way to do it. My FI and I are pretty non-traditional and aren't too concerned with etiquette. It just made sense to do it this way for us.

 

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We did not hear back from alot of people from the stds..so we are including rsvps in the invites so i can have a definite number! I am not sending invites to people who responded NO.

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We didn't even do save the dates... the people whom we are closest to heard through word of mouth before invites went out. Everybody got invites (about 90 went out). And we didn't do RSVP cards either. We just assumed that if they were coming, they'd book and they'd let us know. Plus, my travel agent was great and whenever somebody new would book with her, she'd fire off an email to me to let me know.

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We send out invitations with stamped response cards to everyone we sent save the dates to.  We know already who is coming and everyone has already booked.  We just thought it was the proper thing to do to send out formal invitations with response cards

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I posted a similar question about sending invites to people i know couldn't come and the general response from BDW brides was to send anyway.  I did include the stamped RSVPs - I want to go through the excitement of receiving them in the mail even for those who i know booked.  But also, I included other info for guests to fill out like arrival date and where they are staying.  This will help me keep track and make sure welcome bags get to everyone.

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I think just for courtesy that you should send invites. Even from a  guest's perspective ,  If I cannot make a wedding but get an invite, I always like to send a gift, so it's nice knowing the thought is there when you receive an invite.

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I included an RSVP card because I, too, liked getting the replies in the mail for sure, and not everyone I invited had given me a definite yes by the time invitations were sent out. I still sent invitations to people I knew wouldn't come because I felt the gesture was still appropriate (that you do want them there) but the invitation also had information about the at-home reception, etc.

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We sent out STDs and then about a month later we sent out an information card that included price of the place, exact dates, and that RSVPs could be done through our wedding website.  We found that most people just let us know either through facebook, or text, or email that they were coming.  We are only sending out invites to people who have said they are coming.  I think with a destination wedding there is no right way to do it!

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I'm torn on what to do b/c my mom insists that none of her friends are coming but I think we should still send them invitations. You never know. right?

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