Hey Ladies! It is now my brother's turn to get married and I was asked to be a bridesmaid. I thought this was great until we went on our first excursion to look for dresses and realized how hard it will be to work with 4 other women. None of the girls are skinny-minis, but one in particular started to get really worried about what she would be wearing. She is one of the bigger girls, and I totally get her not wanting to wear a dress that is uncomfortable. This is going to be a pretty simple wedding, with the reception in the bride's parents backyard. The bride and most of us girls imagined wearing simple strapless tea-length dresses, but bridesmaidzilla refused to try on anything that wasn't a floor-length formal gown. We tried suggesting she could add straps, or even she could wear a longer dress, but she insists we all wear exactly the same dress. This is a difficult situation for the bride, who wants everyone to be comfortable, and does not want to hurt anyone's feeling.
I didn't say too much at the time, but the more I thought about her fave picks, the more I realized that myself and 2 other girls will look awful in them because we are 5'2-5'4 and will look overwhelmed in long formal dresses. Also I have really small shoulders, so thick straps always look funny on me. I feel like a terrible person because I get where she is coming from, but how far do you go to please one person, especially if everyone else is uncomfortable. Do I say something? Do I keep quiet and let the others choose?
I was just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience and has advice on how to handle this.
Thanks for your help!!