Did you see each other before the wedding?

[gkashmira]

We stayed together the nght before and we saw each other all day long until we went to our respective rooms to get ready. I don't think it took anything away from the moment when we first saw each other.

[JaimeLynne]

Martin has been asking about if an extra room will be provided for him the night before the wedding. Since we're not planning on getting married at the hotel we're staying at, it won't - we'd need to purchase it I'd assume. So I am gathering that he likes this tradition. It will be so hard since we've hardly spent a night apart since we've been together, but I think it would definitely add to the excitement. Who knows tho. At this point I'm not sure if he thinks that's what he's "supposed" to do or if it's something he really wants. If he really wants that (he doesn't ask for much!) then I'll definitely do that for him.

[deleted]

The way I thought about it - we had 9 days in Mexico, and I didn't want to spend a whole day without seeing him. First, I like him and want to hang out. Second, I didn't want to add hiding out to my stress levels. I just wanted to do what made me happy and non-stressed. So, we saw each other that day, slept in the same room the night before. It was fine, honestly. I wouldn't change it, except that I would have maybe seen him for a private 10 mins before the wedding started. Once the ceremony starts everything goes into fast forward mode and it goes by so fast! Try to build in some time to slow down, see each other, say something meaningful. Sometimes it's hard to focus on each other when you are hosting a big event AND everyone is staring at you all at once.

 

What I am saying is do what you want that will make you happy, not just what you are "supposed" to do!

[Karen]

Our wedding was at 10 a.m. It was realy important to us to see each other for the first time when I walked down the aisle. The night before we had a romantic dinner at the french restaurant at Dreams. Then Jay walked me back to our room, where we exchanged wedding gifts. He then left for his separate rooom for the night. I liked having a little time to myself to reflect. I loved the drama of seeing him for the first time at the ceremony. But that's us.

 

I say do what feels right to you and your FI. It doesn't matter what tradition or etiquette dictates. Your day is about the two of you. Sounds like alone time in the morning together would be very nice. Maybe mimosas on the beach?

[rodent]

Great advice! I was at a wedding where the bride & groom left for a while after dinner & went for a walk together. It was really sweet seeing them go off alone. I want to make sure to remember to take some time out like that & maybe go walk along the beach. I do get into hostess mode & want to make sure everyone is happy. I know it will feel great to just think about the two of us a while.

[TracyK]

We are planning on staying together, I just wouldn't sleep otherwise. We'll hang with who ever all day until we separate to get ready. My mom made a comment the other day that I was sleeping with her and my dad the night before. I was like no way in heck, not following that tradition either.

 

I think I want to see him again before I walk down the isle. Alone, maybe the photographer but that is it, just for like 10 minutes to calm my nerves and get the emotional part out of the way. I hate to cry, especially in front of people. So I know if I were to cry, it would be right when we see each other in the wedding clothes.

[TammyB]

Just a word of advise to all the soon to be brides that plan on hanging out with your FI the day of your wedding. WEAR SUNBLOCK.. Yes we took a nice walk on the beach before our wedding, took some pictures, got some stuff from a vendor, that sort of stuff.. But I also got something I didn't intend on.. A SUNBURN on my shoulders.. I was soooo good up to that point about staying out of the sun or wearing something to cover up so I wouldn't get tan lines. All that went out the window for our "quick walk" Course we had a couples massage before our walk so I'm sure the massage oils didn't help.. lol

[CourtneyV]

I feel the same way as you, Morgan. Aaron and I will probably spend the night together, and have breakfast together before going to get ready. Whatever, it's your day - do what YOU want. If you want to see your fiance before he becomes your husband, then go for it!

[starchild]

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Originally Posted by akh i say do whatever you want - i know people, like Jamy, hung out with their FI all day (at least i think she did). i left for Las Caletas at like 8am, so I didn't see Paul until i walked down the aisle. we did stay in the same room the night before though.

Actually no I hung out with my girls all day, Will came on the late boat with the guests. We had our WD the night before and had a late night together talking and being excited. But from like 7am to 6 p.m. when the wedding began I didn't see him and it was soooo hard. By the time the wedding started I was dying to see him.

If you do see him before the wedding that's okay too, like Kash said it wouldn't have taken anything away from the moment. I also second the alone time thing. If not before, right after the ceremony take some time - even 5 minutes - to step away from everything and reflect on what just happened. After walking out it was like "we'll be right with you" and we snuck out of sight to stare at each other and have our "we did it" time. It still sticks out in my head as a highlight of the day.

[BrittneyD]

I was open to seeing eachother before the wedding, but Pete said no way. He wants to anticipate seeing me all day. Oh well, he's let me plan everything else my way, so I can at least let him make this decision.