Since getting engaged June 2010, after dating for three years, my fiance' and I have finally decided on a location (Maui) and a date 11/11/11. I am originally from Alabama and my fiance is from Louisiana; we currently live in Louisiana. We decided that wherever we decided to get married someone would have to travel, so why not to a beautiful location for a nice vacation.
So we know its a lot to ask friends and family to attend a wedding in Hawaii. That being said, we decided on it only being the two of us (no BM or GM) and assumed that our parents would be there to support any decision we make. Our siblings are invited but not expected to attend due to their young families and finances.
Now that the planning has begun, my parents are super stoked that not only am I getting married but it will also be an awesome "once in a lifetime" trip. What better excuse do you have to go to Hawaii?! My sisters and their spouses have also decided to come along as well.
For my fiance', the siblings haven't even discussed the options. Furthermore, his parents have decided that they "will not go to Hawaii." They believe the idea is silly when "such an event can take place right at home. " They have used excuses such as: "it cost too much" "the flight is too long" , etc. Their suggestion is that we get married at the courthouse or by the JP and then go on a honeymoon for ourselves in Hawaii ( that they offered to put money toward, but finances are an issue?)
I am in need of new perspective. I have a burning desire to "get Maui ed". I believe that our wedding day should be about what we want. But I also don't want to create a rift between the in-laws that will be a lifetime of misery. But should I be pissed off and unhappy on my wedding day? Should they put my fiance' in a position to choose who he will make happy? ( them or me) What will happen and how will my fiance' feel if they seriously decide not to be apart of our wedding day?
Am I asking too much?