I found this area for venting and am I ever glad. My FSIL is insane. Yes I said it, insane. I met my soon to be five years ago, he was abit of a player in the begining, and I was clear, I dont like to share or play well with others. He fixed all his crap and came back and while its not disney around here we have a pretty decent life.
Over the last five years she has been snotty catty and downright rude. Now I believe u marry the man you marry his family, you have no choice family is forever and I have tried so hard to make things at least bearable with this woman.
She called my house and asked my FI to come over and help put up fencing. He arrived and there was no fence there were drinks and one of the "ex" gf's instead. She has told my mother in law I am bad for the kids as a clinical psychologist with a specialty in juveniles I would do nothing but screw up the kids head.. WTF! If FI goes out with her she insits on going to a bar and constantly tries to convince him to leave me or at the very least meet this lovely lady. I pretty much lost it when she invited another one of his exes to a family meal, this woman had made my hell stalking the FI and supporting stupid behavior, I walked into the SIL house and there she was at the xmas dinner. At that point I just snapped I said I am sorry I cant stay I am not feeling well, I will make it up to you by having dinner next week at our house...my theory at the time was I will invite the woman her husband cheated on her with. I didnt cause that is cold but I did indicate I would not be attending any more of her "events"
When we told her we want to get married on the Mayan Riv she said she would come but not to expect her at the resort we choose, flat out said she thinks noelle has no taste and where I choose will likely not be to her liking.
Today she pretty much crossed all the lines she told my FI she feels sorry for him as he works so hard and he had nothing, we may not be the wealthiest people in the world but for heavens sakes we have three very spoiled kids, we have our home I think we are doin pretty good. she then went on to tell the FI that it is ridiculous to put out invitations for our wedding its not like its a big deal or anthing just doing a beach thing not gonna be an actual event noted her wedding was an "event" that required planning and thought but this is just a quicky wedding....IT IS SO ON, I mean I get that it is petty and small and I get it is lowering myself to her level, but at this point this wedding is going to blow her mind I want it to be amazing and I am going to go to any lengths I can to make it mind blowing on the budget I have. I guess I am just petty