I'm in the process of putting together my invites and am not sure who to mail them to. I have some people who are definite yeses, some people who didn't respond to the STD (not that they were required to) and a few who said they most likely can't come. I'm not sure what the etiquette is about sending an invite. Do I sent and invite to everyone I sent a STD to? Or do I skip those who probably won't come? I don't want anyone to feel insulted just in case their plans change, but I also dint want it to seem like I'm just inviting them for a present. What has everyone else done?

send invite to someone who responded "no" to STD?
#1
Posted 28 January 2011 - 10:38 AM
Steph & John........Atlantis.......June 18, 2011......happily married
#2
Posted 28 January 2011 - 10:42 AM
I'd say no need to send invites to those that replied no. Their quick decision/reply either says they have plans already or don't have the $ for a trip. They know the details should their situation change though.
#3
Posted 28 January 2011 - 11:57 AM
I had a few of those people on my list and I sent invites to them as a keepsake. I did let them know that I knew and understood their decision but wanted to send them an official invitation in case they wanted to keep it. But it's definitely not necessary.
#4
Posted 28 January 2011 - 04:31 PM
We are definitely sending everyone an invite, even if we know they won't be able to make it. I think it's a nice gesture, and it lets them know that they are "officially" included and thought of, and gives everyone a chance to formally accept or decline. I agree with MDLady about the keepsake aspect too.
#5
Posted 29 January 2011 - 12:17 PM
We also sent them to everyone. I didn't want anyone to feel like they were uninvited or left out.
and you dont get a present if you dont send an invite
#6
Posted 29 January 2011 - 05:22 PM
I would definitely send everyone an invite. It doesn't matter if they say they cannot come, it's worse to not be invited. Everyone I sent my announcements out to definitely are getting invites, even if they verbally tell me they cannot come.
#7
Posted 30 January 2011 - 08:52 AM
Thanks all - looks like the consensus is to send to everyone.
Steph & John........Atlantis.......June 18, 2011......happily married
#8
Posted 30 January 2011 - 09:57 AM
I was wondering about this too even though I have yet to send out STD's or anything. I'd feel broken hearted if I didn't get an invitation too...although I don't think I would have thought about it from that POV if I hadn't seen this post.
#9
Posted 30 January 2011 - 01:59 PM
You know I went back and forth with this. When i got my list from my family of people I have to send STD's too, and I didnt really know them. I felt completly uncomfortable sending out STD's then invitations and then AHR invitations. So after I sent the STD's I have now decided to skip the formal invitation. I have a wedding website, I know basically who is coming and I think those on the fence are smart enough to know they dont need a formal invite. So now I am sending my AHR information with sorta of a wedding announcement on them. I just cant see spending all that money for no reason.
#10
Posted 30 January 2011 - 04:09 PM
Originally Posted by wendyL77
You know I went back and forth with this. When i got my list from my family of people I have to send STD's too, and I didnt really know them.
You still were asked to send out STD's for people you didn't know? Crazy. I thought you got out of that because you are having a DW, or at least I am getting out of it for that reason.
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