So I have a tough situation. My mother married her now husband 10 years ago. We have never gotten along bc I always speak my mind and he has done many wrong things without apologizing that I have called him on. Even though the rest of my family agrees with me, I am the only one that actually speaks up about it.
A few months ago, they broke up and my mother (who is an alcoholic) confessed that whenever she is in recovery (off and on for years) he will buy alcoholic drinks for her and talk her into drinking them by saying things like, "Just take a sip" or "Come on! Give it a try". She refuses at first, but usually ends up giving in eventually. She is a grown-up and her decisions are her own responsibility but anyone familiar with alcoholism knows that alcoholics can never have just one sip, or just one drink...that is what their struggle is all about!
Of course, they are now getting back together. I am already taking a huge chance in inviting my alcoholic mother to an all-inclusive resort where the employees are more than happy to make a cocktail for you. I really wouldn't want him at my wedding anyway, but now it seems like it is just setting up a messy situation for my wedding day when my mother gets super drunk and he disappears (which he always does when she gets drunk) so I would probably have to handle her. Not anything close to my ideal wedding day!
Am I right to not invite him? Should I just not invite either of them? I would love for my mother to be there, but I can't handle "the worst that could happen" side of things.
Please let me know what you think or if anyone has a similar situation.