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Maybe I'm alone in this opinion, but it seems like almost everyone on here that's selling their post wedding stuff is either trying to break even with what they paid or to make a profit.  I know I've been quoted on here several times higher prices than buying the exact same thing, brand new, online!  It would be nice if we could just look out for each other and pass the stuff along, but I suppose those are pipe dreams...  A lot of people probably come on here and automatically think they're getting a better deal than buying online or in stores.  Be careful and weigh your options.  Remember on here you're buying it used even if the seller claims they never used it. 

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if a person hasn't used an item (and yes, sometimes stuff DOES go unused), why wouldn't they try to break even on it? especially at the holidays. let's face it, weddings are expensive, and some people really do need to do their best to recoup some of their costs. for example, girls who buy several dresses before settling on "the one" ... they now need some of that money back to pay for other wedding expenses.

 

you should always weigh your options ... that goes without saying. if you can get an item cheaper elsewhere, by all means, DO SO. maybe the sellers you encountered didn't shop around themselves, and that's why they are now stuck with overpriced stuff. however, i don't think you should make a blanket statement that everyone on here is out to make a buck ... i know of MANY instances where brides have passed along their items for free, or lent items, simply out of the goodness of their hearts.

 

maybe the issue is that you are still so new to the forum ... give it a chance, and don't get discouraged by your perceived image of just a few posters. lots of amazing girls here!

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I certainly did not say everyone on here does that, just that it seems most people do.  I get recouping some of the money, but for me if it's the same price on here as it would be to by direct from the store I don't see why anyone would get it on here when the store offers returns, ect.  I definately wasn't trying to knock anyone for buying/selling on here I think it's a great idea, and I do get LOTS of ideas from what's being sold.  I would just think people would be more generous when selling their used items instead of trying to get out what they paid for it.  More me just venting...

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I get what you are saying, like it does not make sense business wise, when you can buy something from an online store for the same price and return it. So buy from them, no one says you HAVE to buy from a forum seller. Thier loss for pricing it too high, but also remeber that brides are notriously into negotiating so maybe some people advertise a hight price expecting to have to negotiate. Either way you dont need to buy it from them, so I dont really see the point of a negative whiney thread to complain about it. Simply ignore  and move on to threads that have more interest to you.

 

And by the way, i gave away all my wedding extras for free, getting a bunch of PM's to haggle over price was not worth a few bucks to me, and I was happier to see them get used by brides who I had the pleasure of getting to know thru the forum. I even shipped to multiple people on my own dime. But I believe in karma, just like some amazing brides who got married before me had either given me things or left things at the resort for me.

 

Like Katrina mentions.. it is all about circumstances.

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Either way you dont need to buy it from them, so I dont really see the point of a negative whiney thread to complain about it. Simply ignore  and move on to threads that have more interest to you.

 

I agree with this.
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Originally Posted by AfricanVenus View Post

 

IslandBride8: I see your point. I think some of the responses could've been said more nicely, so don't feel dumped on. Maybe your thread will call to their attention the need to lower their prices.

 

 Or you can just buy somewhere else, where possibly have the right of return, or free shipping?

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I would just like to reiterate that Tammy herself could not have made it more clear, there is no recourse thru the forum if you buy something from a forum seller. There is no guarantee of the condition, or that you will even get it. Buy at your own risk. So if you donâ€t like the prices, my advice again, is to move on, and get it somewhere else.

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