So I have a dilemma and I would like your opinions...
So I had major drama with my bridesmaids when shopping for bridesmaid dresses. I made the mistake of sending them 2 choices and asking which they liked. That opened up the door for drama. Only my sister said she would wear what I wanted out of the 4 of them. Two just didn't like the choices and one had concerns about the strapless because she didn't want to have issues with support being top heavy. The 2 who didn't like the choices proceeded to send me a bunch of pictures of things that didn't work for me or everyone in the party. Eventually I got fed up because it was becoming way too stressful trying to please myself and please them. I told them that this picking their dresses was the most stressed I had been during the entire process and that I was considering not even having bridesmaids because I didn't want to deal with the drama. It just really go out of hand.
So I made appointments at Alfred Angelo and David's Bridal to go shopping with them. They all said they could make it. On the day of the appointments, the 2 who didn't like my original choices showed up to the one hour appointment, one hour late. The people at Alfred Angelo were nice enough to let us continue even though my consultant had another appointment during that time. They tried on the dress that I had decided on (with major attitude - faces all scrunched up, rolling eyes, etc.) When it was time to order, the 2 bridemaids who were there on time ordered and the 2 late ones said they didn't have the money to put down their deposits. They said they would come back within the next 2 weeks.
They went back the next week and found a different dress that they liked without me. I was getting ready for a massage at the time (I mean getting ready to lay on the table for the therapist to walk in). They called me and asked about having a different dress. I told them to text me a pic of the dress and it was a similar style to the one my other bridesmaids had. I told them fine, get it. At that point, I just wanted the dress fiasco done.
A couple of days later, I felt hurt by their actions, truly disrespected. Then I thought I was just being a crazy bride and tried not to think of it. Every time I did think or talk to someone about it, my feelings got all hurt all over again. I mean if a bride asks you to be in her wedding, you should just go with what she wants, right?
So far, the whole situation still feels wrong and now I'm having second thoughts about letting them have 2 different dresses. One is a halter in a satin material and the other is a strapless in a silk/tafetta material. They look similar but I feel like they don't go together. I'm considering going to the store and changing them to the same dress if I can. I'm sure it would involve some cost to me, but I'm thinking that I'll feel better about it if I did. The look for the entire party would be the same and I think, more put together.
What do you ladies think? Am I being a crazy bride? What would you do in this situation?
Sorry about the long post, but I really want to get an objective opinion.