You know, I think all of us go through this during this destination wedding planning process. The fiance and I both have some hurt feelings about people who aren't coming to our wedding because of money reasons. You try to respect it and then they turn around say something crazy that they recently or will be spending money. Neither one of fiance's brothers are coming for this reason and right after they decline, one called and said "you guys should come check out this 65 inch TV I just bought" and the other bought a car and went on and on about buying expensive jewelry. It's not like you care what they spend their money on, you just feel lied to because you find out they really could afford the trip, but just didn't want to. Why can't they just be honest and tell the truth?!
So as I've been dealing with hurt feelings for a lot of things, I read this article in Oprah magazine of an interview with Gabrielle Union. She was talking about ridding yourself of bad friends as it related to something she went through. (Not saying that you should get rid of friends though.) In the article, Gabrielle said a lot of times we become loyal to people in our lives that don't feel that same loyalty to us. It made me realize that we do have lopsided relationships with people. I'm not saying this is true in your case, but I'm learning that now in my case. Now that things are in perspective for me, it doesn't hurt AS much and helps me to deal with it better.
I hope this helps you and I'm really sorry that you're going through this.
Originally Posted by Jamie5280
So, I think I may be losing it a little bit. As you all know I don't have ANY friends coming to our wedding. Their reasoning (excuse), MONEY. Ok, so how could I be mad at that, even though not one of them tried to save, but the kicker is...I keep finding out that more and more of them are still going on their vacations this year. I told you about the "friend" that was in Costa Rica, another is going to FL in a week, another one going to FL over my wedding week, I just found out that another one is going to FL the end of this month, one friend stated he couldn't come because of money, but was just in NYC for a week and told me he was headed to Seattle for 1 1/2, but that we should get together when he gets back (all in the same breath). One told me she was going to come, but spent all her money going to Michigan!?!?
My feelings are severely hurt by these people. Why is my wedding not a vacation they want to take??? And why am I supposed to accept their reasoning for not coming and be happy that they are going on their vacations anyways?
Everyone, that I try to talk to tells me, that I should not be surprised no one is going, but my feelings are constantly being hurt every time I find out another "friend" is going somewhere else. I know you all will say the same thing, but I just had to vent, as I can't really vent to my "friends" about this. THanks!