Coco I agree with anudrm,
You asked her once to be in the wedding and she made choices that had her removed,so now it's definitly up to her to make the first move.
Originally Posted by anudrm
Well hot dayum...I am glad that FI is so happy, it only took forever....but I guess it is better late than never.
As for the programs, NONONONONONO do not do a reprint, you gave both her and the cousin plenty of time to do the minimal.
If she brings it up and ask about it then allow her to be in your party, if not don't sweat it. You've reached out to her many, many times. Done deal!
Originally Posted by coconoir1908
Extra Extra Read all about it!!!
After much to do about a whole lot of nothing, my future DIL applied for her passport today! FI is so excited and has an extra pep in his step which is so great to see.
Now, you know that I have already said (after her and my cousin missed the deadline of 12/1, and after so many "hey we need an answer") that she wasn't going to be a bridesmaid. And heck she didn't have her passport anyway so it was a done deal right? Well, I'm not one to that will typically feel bad about a decision that I make, because more often that not, it is thought out, with the positive and negative outcomes weighed, etc. Yet, with FI being so happy just by the mere fact that she applied, I think (if it comes up by her only) that I will allow her to be a bridesmaid. After all, I still have her dress etc.. and since she is 19 I don't expect her to pay me for it.
So for now, I will see if:
1) she contacts me, as she still haven't done so. The text was only to her dad about the passport
2) if she contacts me and still want to be a bridesmaid I will allow her to be, however;
3) I am not paying new programs (as I can no longer print from work without being caught as Mr. Canon's new code tells on you.) So although she will be apart of the wedding if #1 & 2 happen in some fashion, her name will not appear in our wedding programs. ***it is not an option at all for a reprint*** as I will not spend $$ on something that I was able to do for free.
What are your thoughts ladies?