Okay ladies I need to vent a bit. So I called my mom yesterday to ask about when they were thinking about reserving their rooms and if they need me to pay the initial amount since I owed them some $$ from college anyways. Long story short my parents end up telling me that because crops were so horrible this year (Dad used to be a farmer but is going blind and now only does the business side of the farm) they have no money. They are selling everything they own except their house and vehicles, remortgaging, Dad is quitting farming and getting a job, Mom is quitting college (I was so proud she is going back for her bachelors) and getting a job or two... ect. I know money was tight and they had already had said no Christmas gift this year
Anyways my fiance and I- we both make good money right now, were trying to figure out how we could make this work. We were going to try to pay for them if his parents would maybe pay for some of the things when we got to MX (music for the reception, ect). He went over to their house to talk to them and a little while later told me to come over too. I guess when his dad found out that we were considering changing to a wedding back home he said "What does Natalie (me) want? If she wants to get married in Mx we'll pay for them all to get there."
So now FI's parents, who were already paying for them, us, his brother and SIL, and his grandparents to come are paying for my parents and 3 of my 4 siblings. As grateful as I am for them and as honored as I am that they love me so, I am just put in a hard position here. My parents think we are the ones paying for them, but now his parents must think bad about my parents, and FI is a little upset my mom and dad didn't come to me sooner, which I understand. My parents live on the other side of the country and now this is how FI is going to think of them- as poor people who can't support themselves instead of the hard working, loving, great parents they are who happen to run into bad luck.
But also- After all of that my FI and I sat and were talking and he said "what about your 12 and 16 year old sister and brother? Are they getting no Christmas presents?" He was so upset by this we decided to call my parents and tell them we will be their Santa this year. I'm excited to go shopping And am reminded of how much I love that man!!
Sorry this got really long. Lots of tears last night but I'm happy to say I'm still a Moon Palace Bride! And my mom, dad, and siblings will be there- and that's all that really matters!