Ever since deciding to have a DW i was all about having the legal ceremony down there for various reasons (mainly b/c i was worried I would get there and not feel like it was my wedding day). My FI parents cannot attend for health and financial reasons (we knew this from day 1). I started thinking about it and felt really bad that his parents wouldn't be there and no mater what he says i knew it sucked for him. So i decided to get over my selfishness and suggest a courthouse ceremony here and then the symbolic ceremony there. Here I am thinking I'm being some great fiance, but then he says "well if we do that, what's the point of even having the symbolic ceremony?" I'm sorry but WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY?!?! do i really need to tell you the importance of a wedding day full of flowers, family, wedding dress, ect to anyone??? Well apparently i do to the man I'm going to marry! I'm soo irritated by this. I know i should get over it, but i was really hurt. I was compromising and thought i was surprising him with this awesome idea to include his family and then I feel like i was slapped in the face. I should mention that my mom has been trying to get me to do the symbolic for months now to save $$$ and i have refused because i hated the idea. Here i am trying to think of him and put my feelings aside only to have him ask "what's the point of the actual wedding?"
Thanks for listening!